How do I get him to leave?

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House in my name but we 'bought it together' 3 years ago although turned out as I was selling my house to buy something with him jointly that he had no deposit and couldn't get a mortgage because of credit card debt

So, house in my name, mortgage in my name. We have paid half each every month since buying it for 3 years. I put a 40% deposit down and I agreed verbally for him to buy into the remaining 60% half each as we went. If we split up I said I'd freeze his contribution till the house was sold when I want to sell it - it's mine and my kids house.

Annnyway. He drinks to much, is selfish and largely unsupportive, earns upward of 100k a year and I see none of it. All ploughing into himself, his debts, his kids who are non resident and god knows what else. Won't even buy bloody food half the time.

I want him to go I'm sick of it. He is a classic narc.

How do I get him to move out. He is refusing and wants his money. I feel really angry and a bit scared

Sounds as though Sunday (when he goes away) is a fantastic time to change those locks and get his stuff packed. Once that's done, get in touch to let him know that you'll drop his stuff off where he likes. I wouldn't arrange for him to pick it up and if you drop it off it's under your control and you can get someone to go with you. Put nothing in writing to him about any settlement/his share of the house. Just refuse to talk about it from now on. If he wants to pursue it, he can take you to court, I suspect his case is weak and he won't bother. Don't worry about his feelings, sounds as though you've been dropping the hint for that past year and when you now start to push it you can see his nasty side emerging. Don't think about him, think about you. He earns enough to get himself sorted out, let him crack on with it.

Given I've heard that a man can kick his DP and child out of a house that's in his sole name, I can't see why you'd have any problem.

Don’t give him back his money. You’ve hated having him there for a YEAR. The house is in your name because he lied about having a deposit, and his credit meant he couldn’t get a mortgage when you were already selling your house. You could have been so screwed thanks to him. He would have had to pay rent no matter what as he can’t get a mortgage through his own fault. He earns a lot and you don’t see any of it, he won’t buy food because he doesn’t want to buy anything for your dc and he eats your food. You don’t owe him a red cent. He earns a lot, he should have savings. Keep your money for you and your dc who need it.

Great news OP.

If you have still being sharing a bed until recently take this opportunity to stay in separate rooms. That's a clear signal that you are over, that he has no ownership of you.
I'm so glad you're getting so legal help and had the gumption to get the police involved.