Hi everyone, I'm new on here. I need some advice please.
I got married just over 12 months ago.
Everything was going fine...until a couple months after on boxing night of our first xmas we went out had a few drinks, and after one too many came home. Then he strangled me....family intervened and I threw him out! Next day he rang couldn't remember a thing! said hes sorrys! I said I couldn't believe what he had done and likewise he also said the same. I contacted his mother and she was mortified. His mother suffers with her mental health and didnt take it very well!!! Anyway fast forward to new yr and only found out that he dolled up and went out!!! Then new years day his mother takes an overdose and is critical. I get a phone call from him saying if she dies he will kill me!!! and that it's my fault ext. Anyway she became stable and a couple weeks after we made up. Things were going fine again fast forward a couple of months and I got sick with my kidney. In hospital had to go for an operation...next day in the evening I'm in hospital still, and decide to call him he then ignores my calls, until he answered unknowingly and I can hear music in the background!!! Any way I try again and he answers! Hes answer was he had left the phone in the car!!! I went nuts!!! He told me his conversation was more important!!! Ok now I'm back home a couple days when he wont answer his phone again! he had gone for a couple hours but said he would only be half hour! When he came home he told me it was none of my buisness!! Fast forward a couple of weeks I'm in hospital again. The next morning I find out he didnt come home till 6 in the morning!! Anyway fast forward a couple of months and he gets into a big fight with my landlord I know for 32 yrs because of money! My landlord did do him wrong along with someone else, anyway landlord kicks him out of our place! So he gets a place somewhere else and we move. I was starting to get depressed in this new place anyway we got into a few arguments and I left a couple of times but ending back with him. Then one day he goes to watch football had a few then continued drinking through till ten o'clock that night. He was in such a state but ended up kicking the living daylights out of me!! I thought he was gona take my life...stood on my head and punched me repeatedly! Kicked my knee out of place and tore all the tendons and ligaments and said to me slurring that he didnt know what he was doing with me anyway cause he had women crawling all over him and did I feel worthless. Next day blamed me said I should have just left him alone and that he was spiked!! So with the state my face was in and limping I didnt want my family to see. I waited until I recovered and I left. A week goes by and before I know it my landlord is violently threatend by men he sent. So I had the landlords family on my case they cornered me and demanded his mothers number and address!! I give them I was in a state of shock and didnt know what to do. His mother got a phone call and bad things were said to her and he has blamed me and said he will never forgive me as I know his mother has mental health and I sold him out!! And that his mother is his everything as he told me before shes number 1!! The battle between him and my landlord is still ongoing..in this process...he has cut all contact and told me that it's over and move on it's never going to work...find out hes drinking and partying ever since..then has the cheek to text me to say hope I'm doing ok!!! And the mother is on the phone telling me dont give up on our marriage while hes having the time of Larry and has turned my life upside down. I've lost my home because of him and friendships.. thrun to the ways of the world..and hes living it up like we never even existed!!!! Its brocken me and hurt me so bad!!! I was 8 years older than him hes 28 I'm 35 my dream of being a good wife and having a family of which I was,I cooked , cleaned, washed, and it was never good enough, along with him being first man I ever been with. I feel so hurt. He could be nice and good, but the bad just outweighed it. I've tried everything to make it work after all this and he even one time pulled my hair while I was driving and would always call for my brothers and told me he didnt care for no-one. I feel so hurt he has blamed me for everything!! I feel bad for giving his mothers number and address and the things that was said to her but he caused it..I feel like my heart has been ripped out....and this was all just over 12 months...sad I'm just devastated I thought I had found the man of my dreams and only man I'd ever been with and it was gona last a lifetime....and this is just minor detail. I think I'm of men for life after this experience with him he would tell me every day how much he loved me and he didnt think hed find someone like me...he would send me pictures when we were good of our wedding day saying to me I love you and will mind you and protect you until the day I die...but hes put me through horrible heartless stages in our marriage and I've still forgave him for everything...I dont think another women would stick what I have anyway please advise me...thanks