Told to leave but I am 5 weeks pregnant

[johannawarlow1210]

Please can someone advise me. Myself and my partner of 8 months had a huge argument the other day regarding my 14 year old boy who has hfa. My son is a difficult child and I always seem to be defending him as my partner believes he is a spoilt brat and it's all my fault. He is always shouting at my son and says we can't get along if I do not support what my partner says and we both work as a team, I agree with this but sometimes my partner goes too far. The argument was so bad I left with my son and went back to my mum's. The issue is I am 5 weeks pregnant at 41, my partner has said he doesn't want us back unless things change. Shall I apologise and say to work things out or do I stay away? I know I won't want to bring a child into this world on my own again.

Sounds like a classic case of rushing to have a baby with the new man you haven't been with long enough because time is running out, biologically speaking.

Eight months of living with him and he thinks it's his place to discipline your DS.

This is not a case where you apologise to her back with him when you've done nothing wrong.... well asides from making a hasty decision to live together and have a baby with him anyway.

You have posted about this before OP, haven't you? And everyone told you that time that you are allowing your child to be abused by this man.

Look, no normal woman on any forum ever, no matter how many times you post this, will agree that you are putting your child first. You aren't.

If you still think that every single poster here 'doesn't understand' then contact social services for advice. They can actually visit and you can tell them all the things that we don't understand.

Your first responsibility is to the child you already have. Your second should be to ensure you do NOT have a child with this man. The best way of protecting your son is to ensure you do not have this man hanging about your life and your son for the next 16 years. it seems to me that having a baby was a bit of a vanity project.

Now its wake up time. Make the hard decisions and look after the child you already have. Harsh maybe, but you're an adult and sometimes life is harsh, but as an adult you get to decide stuff, your poor son however suffers the consequences of poor decision making. So put him first for now.

OP what did you mean in your post that you had plans that would benefit your son to move to a better place

If you’re feeling abused reading these comments, how do you think your poor vulnerable son is feeling when that piece of trash you’re with, verbally abused him. You’re a neurotypical, independent adult and you think you have it tough. Give your head a wobble.