Hindu muslim marriage

[sravani0]

Hello. My guy is a muslim and I'm an hindu.
So we are talking about our marriage and he informed me that it is mandatory for me to get converted into islam in order to marry him. Otherwise our marriage can't be acceptable. Now here is the thing.. I am not a religious person. He is very religious. I want to marry him but i don't want to get converted. I said i wanna be like who i am. I asked him to accept me the way i am but he says he can't as it is not allowed in his religion for marriage. Now we both are stuck.
Is there any couple out there with interfaith marriage? Please advise.

Please advise.

Run.

I was in similar situation and I converted into Muslim and was the best decision ever. Is your decision! Good luck 🤞

I think if he loved you enough he would understand your POV and not expect you to do something you don't want to do.

It sounds like this is not a match you don,t want to end up resenting him. You should only convert if that is what you truely believe. How will his family feal if you don,t?

Can you not get married in a civil ceremony ?
Use a registry office or a registrar at a hotel?
That way you have the legal part covered - if his family don't recognise it, then that is their problem.

OP this is a question only you have the answer to. He is correct. That he would not be able to marry you islamically as you are Hindu. So you would need to revert. (Yes that's the correct terminology) however this is something only you can decide. Nobody on here can give you the answer.

Islam is the most beautiful religion in the world and I don't know where I would be if I hadn't become a Muslim. However, the choice can only be yours. And it can't be forced. Please make the decision yourself. Best of luck.

Interfaith marriage isn’t an option. Forget it.
You sound like this has come as a surprise?

Lots of people have interfaith marriages. I’m Jewish and dh is an atheist (raised Christian). My friend is Muslim and her dh is Hindu.

But it only works if neither of you is a controlling jerk. This doesn’t sound like a happy healthy relationship for you.

You don't have to convert OP. That's red flag one. Muslim women can't marry a non Muslim but men can. It's not 'mandatory' and he's lying to you.

Red flag two: You're not religious and he is. How is that going to work in reality? If you know anything about Muslim faith, you'll know that it governs your whole life. It's embedded in everything you do.

Red flag three: What are his expectations after marriage? Have you discussed it? Does he expect you to cover up? How do you feel about that? Does he expect you to pray? Yet, you're not religious so how is that going to work?

Does he expect you to live with his family? Will you be expected to take care of them?

It sounds like you have a good idea of your own opinions/feelings.

If it's that important to him and it doesn't feel right for you, he's not the right guy for you. xxx

If he’s very religious and apparently can’t marry a Hindu woman, what part of his religion allowed dating anyone never mind a Hindu woman?

Don’t marry him, find someone worth being married to, who won’t force you to change your religion and put stipulations on being in a relationship with you.

Run. He is not the one for you.

And @Asbk some of your posts discredit you saying you converting to marry your man was the 'best decision ever'.

Men get more difficult, not less, over time. This man is not the one for you.

@12345kbm that is incorrect. Muslim men can only marry Christian/Jewish women. Not disbelievers and not Hindus either. It has been clearly mentioned in the Quran.

No Muslim men can marry women of the book, so Christian and Jewish women.

He can’t marry OP.

But if he was at all concerned about his religious beliefs he wouldn’t have been dating either.

My partner is Muslim and has never as much as suggested I convert for him. Get out whilst its easy.. this wont end well.

@Pinkroses21 I looked it up after I posted. Thank you for pointing that out. It seems a Muslim man cannot marry someone of polytheist faith, which would be Hindu. He can marry a Christian or Jew. He's not lying OP, apologies.

I'm in an interfaith marriage. (He's Sikh, I'm atheist).

It only works when you are each able to 100% accept and respect one another's beliefs. He cannot accept what you believe, and he wants you to change. There is no future in that.

Seriously, you should walk away.

Op, as a Hindu, are you permitted to marry a Muslim? How would your family feel about this marriage?

If your family and religion are not in favour of you marrying a Muslim, do you think he is worth going against your faith/family/culture now and years down the line? Love can really decrease when there are feelings of regret and resentment towards the partner.

I could not go through with an interfaith marriage. A huge reason I love my husband is because who he is faith and culture wise.

If someone asked me to convert to a different religion strictly for them, I would find that hurtful but also impossible. While you can try to implement practices, you cannot insist that someone have (certain) faith if they don’t.

Why did your partner start a relationship with someone he cannot marry in the first place?! What he is asking of you is unfair.

Although it's said Muslims can marry Jews or Xtians, my money's on Muslim men/families who are really devout wanting their future wives to convert, though.

Does he want you to convert as in truly believe and being up any children within the Islamic faith? Of is it more of a box tick?

No truly religious Islamic man would be happy with you converting just to get married. It's supposed to be your choice alone.

He just have known this all along so why has he allowed the relationship to get to this point before mentioning it? Why is he dating at all if he's religious?

I would be asking him many many questions before proceeding with anything. Forget romance, you need to know exactly how he imagines this marriage to be.

I have been in a similar situation except I am a non- practising Christian. It became obvious it was not going to possible to find a path we were both happy with so we split up. In my (limited) experience an Islamic man who considers himself religious will know exactly how he expects his wife and the mother of his children to act and it may not align with your vision for marriage.

Sorry about all the typos..

How long have you known him? Being willing to date without reversion but expecting it for marriage suggests you haven't seen the real him yet. Suspicious, tread carefully.

I also do not believe your partner was/is a strong Muslim This would have been a pre-requisite when choosing a wife...not dating someone and hope they convert.

I think your partner may be a Muslim by culture only, but has little idea what Islam is about.

Tell him this :” There is no compulsion in religion. “ Quran 2:256

Good luck OP...my advice is, for his and your sake don’t marry him.

Honestly - I think it will end badly. He expects you to defer to his religion and culture, with no meeting in the middle.

I would never convert to a religion I don’t believe in. You sound really switched on about what you hope to have in a marriage - I don’t think this man is the one you will see that realised with.