Hindu muslim marriage

[sravani0]

Hello. My guy is a muslim and I'm an hindu.
So we are talking about our marriage and he informed me that it is mandatory for me to get converted into islam in order to marry him. Otherwise our marriage can't be acceptable. Now here is the thing.. I am not a religious person. He is very religious. I want to marry him but i don't want to get converted. I said i wanna be like who i am. I asked him to accept me the way i am but he says he can't as it is not allowed in his religion for marriage. Now we both are stuck.
Is there any couple out there with interfaith marriage? Please advise.

He mentioned that this can't be forced and insjould be doing this for only god. Not even for him.

Yes, however the continuation/progression of your relationship is now dependent on it, so there's hardly no pressure. It's forcing you to consider it whereas you most probably wouldn't otherwise.

I'm a Muslim.

Really he shouldn't have been dating you or anyone but people can't help falling in love so for him to marry you, you would have to become a Muslim yes. But Islam does not force itself on anyone. You can only become a Muslim if you truly believe from your heart. Don't convert for his heart, convert because your heart accepts Islam.

If you have any questions message me but I don't want to make my post long.

In essence Islam is about worshipping One God, who has no partner, no father, no son or daughter or wife.

With belief in God comes belief in all the Messengers, from Adam to Noah to Jesus to the last Messenger Muhammad, peace be upon them all.

Muslims pray 5 times a day (a few minutes for each), give 2.5% of their wealth to charity once every year (which is cumpolsary but Muslims also give to charity freely throughout the year), fasting in the month of Ramadhan and if you can, going on Hajj (the pilgrimage) once in a lifetime.

Belief in angels, the books of God, the last day, the hereafter etc. are also part of Islamic belief.

Islam means achieving peace and salvation by submitting oneself to believe in One God.

Muslim means someone who does the above i.e. believes in the above.

The emphasis in Islam is to be a good person and do no harm to others. In fact there is a saying of the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him that backbiting is worse than adultery.

You might find Zakir Naik's talk helpful. He goes back to the Hindu scriptures and finds that in the highest book of the Hindu religion, it has very similar beliefs to Islam. There's lots on YouTube on this but you can also read it as an article online. You might then find that Islam and the Hindu beliefs found in the Vedas are very similar.

Here's the link:

www.islam101.com/religions/hinduism/conceptOfGod.htm

The following verses from the Upanishads refer to the Concept of God:

"Ekam evadvitiyam"
"He is One only without a second."
[Chandogya Upanishad 6:2:1]1

"Na casya kascij janita na cadhipah."
"Of Him there are neither parents nor lord."
[Svetasvatara Upanishad 6:9]2

"Na tasya pratima asti"
"There is no likeness of Him."
[Svetasvatara Upanishad 4:19]3

The following verses from the Upanishad allude to the inability of man to imagine God in a particular form:

"Na samdrse tisthati rupam asya, na caksusa pasyati kas canainam."

"His form is not to be seen; no one sees Him with the eye."
[Svetasvatara Upanishad 4:20]4

Yajurveda
The following verses from the Yajurveda echo a similar concept of God:

"na tasya pratima asti
"There is no image of Him."
[Yajurveda 32:3]5

"shudhama poapvidham"
"He is bodyless and pure."
[Yajurveda 40:8]6

Basically if you agree these are books of Hinduism then you may find yourselves on the same pages (no pun intended) all along.
This is my understanding working with Hindus, Muslims, Christians and people of all faiths and no faiths. It's always been an interesting view.

Hmm...if you break up with your partner, would you be converting to Islam and remaining a Muslim? Be honest with yourself.

If the answer is no, then you would be converting for him. No man is worth this in my opinion.

Now it's time for you to say that he has to follow Hinduism as otherwise the marriage won't be acceptable to you. Then wait for his reaction.

You've already been given the best advice - RUN
Why is he trying to control you and change you? He should love you for who you are and not for what he can make you. If you are expected to give up your faith and heritage for him, what is he giving up for you?

Why not both of you convert to a different religion altogether? Why not convert to Buddhism? Would that not be acceptable to him because his desire is to impose his religion and culture on you?

I would steer clear of such controlling people. It can never end well.

Run

Different faiths should be fine in a marriage

Sharukh Khan is a Muslim and married a Hindu. I don’t believe she converted. They had a Hindu marriage.

I think they had a nikah too. Islam doesn't ask for much for marriage. Just two witnesses and saying I accept him/her as my husband/wife and that's it. No one even needs to get up and do anything. 😂

However he isn't the ruling of Islam. In Islam it is forbidden to marry anyone who associates partners with God.

@Babba2014
people can't help falling in love

Babba2014, Yes they can. If this man had put his faith first (if it’s that important to him), he would be looking for someone who is already a Muslim or already interested in becoming one...someone who would gladly share the Islamic way of life with him. But he went against his faith by dating a Hindu. He has now made unreasonable demands on his partner and has made a huge mess of his life and his partner’s life. Double standard.

Sharukh Khan is a Muslim and married a Hindu. I don’t believe she converted. They had a Hindu marriage.

Their Islamic marriage is invalid. Civil one would not be.

@Emmmie

Absolutely agree.

@Emmmie yes I do agree that he should not put someone through this but I have to look at it from the other side too. It's not just a Muslim man thing. I have this play out in both ways those in that the wife carries on her life as before and I've also seen that the wife may not have practises Islam after marriage at first but then later on chose to as she learnt about it.

So for some people it doesn't mean anything as they were not practising Christians or Hindus before (didn't worship any God really but it was just how they grew up) whereas these Muslim men may sin and sin and sin but they always worship One God and may do the bare minimum of fasting in Ramadhan and not praying 5 times a day or not doing either of the above and only praying once a week which is the Friday prayer.

The OP seems like she is open to it but that's just the very start. There are things to learn and accept if one truly wants to become a Muslim from the heart and not for a man.
Love can fade and what will one be left with after that? He should probably sign up to some Islamic classes himself and learn before even asking her to convert.

Sorry about the spelling mistakes.

If what his family thinks is more important to him than your self-respect and happiness, walk away.

You deserve better than that.

Do you want to convert? Do you believe in the religion and that it is the truth? If not, don't convert. It is wrong to convert to a religion for personal and not spiritual gain, IMO.

You have to think very carefully about what you want to do, because this will affect your whole life, especially if you have children with this man.

He should not have persued a relationship with you knowing fullwell he can only marry a Muslim, Christian or Jew

Look my opinion is that if he loves you for you-then that should be enough. Sounds like he is moving the goalpost after the point and for that reason alone I would say dump him.
He cannot dictate what or who you choose to worship, he knew who you were from the start of the relationship and he should accept you as you are now.
My family is muslim but we practise a far progressive mindset. I have many family members married to people (including same sex marriages)of all other faith including Hindus. Our family philosophy is simple, love is love and everyone should be accepted.
My family just thinks God/Allah created everyone, so all faiths and sexual orientations-so everyone's choices should be celebrated and respected.
Your partner is not showing you basic respect and marriage should be on just his terms. Would he convert for you?

Maybe give it a rethink, eh, op?

Okay so I am Hindu and need to be honest with you. You would have known this going into the relationship as it’s not news that Muslim people require Hindus to convert. You let this relationship continue regardless because, I presume, you love him and want to be with him. By that logic, if you aren’t religious anyway, what are the cons of converting? Would you lose your family? (most Hindu families I know get angry, cut off contact for a little bit, but then re-establish contact big time after kids are born so you may not).

I would never disrespect people of different faiths by quoting their holy scriptures just to offend them...not even if I was an expert.

Are you an expert in Quranic studies, hadith and fikh pp? Are you fluent in Quranic Arabic? Are you assuming all Muslims follow Sahih Al-Bukhari? Do you think the points you have brought forward have never been discussed and addressed?

You are nothing but a copier/paster...here to offend. That is fine. Says a lot about you.

But you are not going to tell me, a Muslim woman that I have no rights, that I am second grade, that I am oppressed. If Muslim women are oppressed it is due to cultural norms poisoning the religion.

I have willingly chosen Islam to be my religion, and could not be happier. It is who I am. I feel loved, fulfilled, at peace. Not you or millions of people like you could make me feel any differently.

Sorry everyone, I was only addressing itshappened12.

I wouldn’t have thought it would be possible for people with different beliefs to be married.

I find it hard to talk about anything of any depth with people with different beliefs, let alone live with them or marry them.

Isn’t this simply a fundamental flaw of your relationship?

@Emmmie well said. Couldn't have put it better myself 👏👏 I am also proud to be a Muslim woman.

OP I will say this though, you seriously have to consider the choice you are making and the consequences if you were to start a family with this person etc. Because Islam isn't just a religion. It's a complete way of life. Everything from eating to sleeping and all in between has its own etiquettes and correct ways of doing things and I know that if you were to marry this man, him been Muslim, he would most likely adopt those etiquettes in his marriage with yourself and want to bring them to be of strong faith and every aspect of your lives will be focused entirely on Islam. That's if he is very religious like you said. So please think carefully.