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Dating advice for a man third date.

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HeresMe · 31/01/2020 19:56

Hi
Just after a bit of advice.

Going to have a third date next weekend with a lady I'm a bit smitten with.

Had a great couple of dates second date, no awkward silences just lots of chatting, she's vegan found a nice place to take her and I ate vegan too.

At end of date I went for hug ,and peck on cheek, I'm pretty sure she went for a kiss, haha ended up a sloppy half kiss.

Third date is just before valentine's Day do I get flowers. Do I greet her with a hug.

I'm old enough to know better but want to do things right.

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Coffeshopgirl · 31/01/2020 20:06

What was her body language like on the second date? Was she turned toward you, and light touches on your arm, or legs crossed toward you?
I know you can’t always tell some of these if sat in a restaurant.

Third date can be awkward, you know you both like each other or you wouldn’t be on the third date! But how much physical contact I som can be difficult to gauge. If you don’t hug her she may wonder why you haven’t?!

What are you doing for the date?

If it were me, I would appreciate the flowers, Valentines or not. Go for a hug, and see how things go from there. But most of all, relax and enjoy.

Robin2323 · 31/01/2020 20:15

Definitely flowers.

I'd find a hug on arrival a bit over powering on meeting, even if I liked the guy.

Just have a nice time and maybe say how you enjoying seeing / her company and see how she responds.

RedIsWhereItsAt · 31/01/2020 20:24

But then she'll have to carry flowers around all night.

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HeresMe · 31/01/2020 20:25

Body language was good day at eihier side of table might need to remedy it so sat at same side.

When we were walking from one place to other we were properly leaning into each other.

Thanks want to buy flowers but very open to opinions

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Robin2323 · 31/01/2020 20:28

Women love flowers.

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HeresMe · 31/01/2020 20:28

But then she'll have to carry flowers around all night.

We are more afternoon dates kind of people, and I'd carry them for her.

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Delbelleber · 31/01/2020 20:28

I'd be well chuffed with a bunch of flowers Flowers you old charmer you

Coffeshopgirl · 31/01/2020 20:32

I’d carry them for her

Then do flowers, perfect!

vincettenoir · 31/01/2020 20:33

Yes, flowers sound really lovely.

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HeresMe · 31/01/2020 20:36

I'd be well chuffed with a bunch of flowers flowers you old charmer you

I'm a bit anxious so want to do right by the lady I'm question, haha she went in for first kiss, I didnt.

I'm not saying I want it to be perfect I just want to be best to her I can be.

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Delbelleber · 31/01/2020 20:40

You're over thinking, just take the flowers and enjoy your date Flowers

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HeresMe · 31/01/2020 20:43

Thank you will do

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Coffeshopgirl · 31/01/2020 20:43

What Delbelleber said.

And also, stop worrying! She wants to see you again, remember? The best thing you can do for her is to just be you. Be natural, go with your instincts 😊

PaterPower · 01/02/2020 01:29

Carrying flowers around could be awkward. Do you know her address? If so, I’d have them sent there the day before with a note saying you’re really looking forward to the date. Much more practical and it gets her thinking of you ahead of the meet up.

MrsTerryPratchett · 01/02/2020 01:37

I'd find a hug on arrival a bit over powering on meeting, even if I liked the guy.

I've hugged people on first meeting! There is an etiquette. Sort of arms out when you see her. If she puts her arms out, she wants a hug. Wave and she probably doesn't.

Make the flowers easy to carry. If you had a very good florist you could ask for something boxed so it could be carried easily. Chinese takeaway box? You could get something lovely (if you live in a big city).

Beastm0de · 01/02/2020 02:29

Small amount of really nice roses and go with the flow! You’ll know if she wants a hug or more by the way she acts.

Don’t YouTube a 101 videos on “if she likes you” behaviour either... Just relax!

StarlightLady · 01/02/2020 06:45

Flowers, but a small bunch, then, if you have change from Valentine’s day flowers, a small non-childish soft toy (avoid sloppy!) or maybe something like a scarf.

Good luck x

Windmillwhirl · 01/02/2020 07:05

I think flowers are a lovely gesture, it being close to Valentine's Day. As others have said, try and relax. I know it's not easy when you really like someone. It took a few dates for me to relax with my now partner. First date I was so shy I could barely look at him (and I'm not a shy person normally). It gets easier. Just enjoy yourself. All the best.

Stabbitha1 · 01/02/2020 07:13

If you know her address get them delivered instead. Carrying them looks so wrong and awkward.

Windmillwhirl · 01/02/2020 07:19

It doesn't look wrong carrying flowers Grin unless your planned date is a city walk.

I think sending could be a little ott if you don't already know her address.

mildlymiffed · 01/02/2020 07:34

I'd go for a small bunch of flowers too. Are you both driving to meet each other? If so she could put them in her car. A soft toy would be a no-no for me. I'd just stick to flowers.

Unless she's really into reading! I'd always like a new novel!!!

NeverBeenLoved · 01/02/2020 08:05

Do you know enough about her yet to know what her interests and tastes are?

I only ask because, to me, flowers are a little cliched. I'd prefer to receive something small that showed you'd remembered something I'd told you about myself. Like a book or something.

And as for the suggestion of a cuddly toy or a scarf..!

LizzieSiddal · 01/02/2020 08:09

Do NOT get her a cuddly toy or scarf!

A small bunch of flowers is a lovely idea.

Bluntness100 · 01/02/2020 08:12

I'd send the flowers to her home, saying something like see you sat or whatever. One of you carrying flowers around all through a date is a bit awkward. Do you have her address?

Itsallpointless · 01/02/2020 08:13

You sound lovely! Flowers are perfect, I would be over the moon with the gesture. Good luck to you both young manWink

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