Dating advice for a man third date.

[HeresMe]

Hi
Just after a bit of advice.

Going to have a third date next weekend with a lady I'm a bit smitten with.

Had a great couple of dates second date, no awkward silences just lots of chatting, she's vegan found a nice place to take her and I ate vegan too.

At end of date I went for hug ,and peck on cheek, I'm pretty sure she went for a kiss, haha ended up a sloppy half kiss.

Third date is just before valentine's Day do I get flowers. Do I greet her with a hug.

I'm old enough to know better but want to do things right.

Do other women really like flowers that much?

Don't you find it a bit unimaginative?

I find it romantic.

Don’t think you can go wrong with a small bunch of flowers. But I wouldn’t send. That’s a bit full on imo.
A cuddly toy or scarf would freak me out a bit.
But relax. None of these things would be deal breakers. Always hard to know how much people care about Valentine’s Day - some people agree it’s become over commercialised bollocks from the US, someone else might be upset it wasn’t marked or acknowledged. Probably best to play safe hence why bunch of flowers sounds good.

Question is do you know if SHE likes flowers? Are there any she may be allergic to and all that?

Not every one likes flowers but many can appreciate the sentiment (even if they don't actually like it). So if you don't know anything else she likes that's simple enough to get, then get flowers.

A hug isn't unreasonable and seems friendly enough without being over the top. From the description, it sounds like she won't mind being greeted with a hug and a peck. Go for it.

Then relax and have a good time. Listen to her and take cues from what she says. By getting to know her, you'll know what SHE likes, not what a bunch of strangers think "women like".

In some circles third date is the sex date ... from your description you two sound as if you take things more slowly, but most magazine readers are aware of that.

For that reason receiving flowers before the date would make me nervous, flowers on the date ,,because it's almost Valentines,, would be welcome.

Sorry can't use punctuation properly, iPad fail.

Oh and goodluck

I think sending to her home address is too full-on - I would be out off. Small bunch (not petrol stàtiin or dyes) is nice thought. Peck on cheek on arrival then kiss at end of night, or during, would do me if things are going well.

Do NOT turn up with a soft toy!! Flowers would be lovely - nice ones, not petrol station ones.

I'm going on a third date tomorrow and I would be mortified if he turns up with flowers. Or a soft toy (holy f*ck, that's a horrendous idea!) or a scarf!! You're way too over-invested in this OP. Just go on your date, be yourself and get to know your date better. Forget the tacky cliched gestures.

Personally, i would find flowers incredibly awkward. I would take nothing.

I love flowers 😍 But have done a lot of online dating and would have hated to have been given flowers on a third date. Absolutely hated it. And definitely not a soft toy!!! She's not a child. Flowers on or near valentines day when you aren't yet in an ongoing relationship would put me right off. Just my view ....

Sorry, flowers would turn me off - I’d find it too much on a third date ...but I think you should be yourself and not listen to us strangers. You know this woman and we don’t ... being yourself is important and she obviously already fancies you (and maybe I wouldn’t , with or without flowers) so just be the kind, thoughtful person I can tell you are, give her flowers and enjoy yourselves ....

OP, good for you! The fact that you're asking this or worrying about it means that you've got good skills! (if I had a quid for every guy who came on strong on the third date without any regard for my body language...)

I don't think a hug is too much. And as PP said, if you slightly telegraph it by opening your arms a bit, less chance of awkwardness.

One option with flowers is to go a little bit quirky. I, personally, like tiny cactuses (depending on whether she'd read that as a phallic symbol? I realise I'm not being super helpful here, but you get my drift). You want to go for thoughtful, but kind of small and casual. Or maybe one of those spring flowering bulbs in a little pot, that's just leaves now but will flower later?

Looking forwards to a 'Freaked out by home being love bombed with flowers' thread

You can't go far wrong with flowers, if you're worried about coming on too strong avoid roses.

Carrying them around might be a bit of an issue, if you're meeting by car you could leave them stashed and give them as a parting gift? That might set you up nicely for the next date.

God don’t give flowers on the actual date that’s very cringey (for me personally and I think a lot of actual grown women) and whoever said the soft toy or scarf is sadly winding you up
Anyway you can surely gauge what she likes a bit can’t you?

No No No to flowers - I’d find it too much on a 3rd date even more so if it was close to Valentines. NO NO NO to a soft toy on a date ever.

You sound lovely so just you being happy and natural. If that is not enough for her then she’s the wrong one.

I also think flowers on a third date is too much. And a soft toy is a ghastly idea. Never buy anyone a scarf on a date!

Just meet up, go for a hello cheek kiss and guage at the the if a hug would be welcome.

Stay calm......it'll be fine.

I'm cracking up at the idea of giving someone flowers in a Chinese take away tub. I have no idea what that means but I'd be very unimpressed if someone gave me anything in a Chinese take away tub on a date.

Not many women would be put off by a bunch of flowers. But I'd find a soft toy tacky and scarves are a bit too personal at this stage. What about some vegan chocolates? They would show you'd put some thought into it.

I’d go with a small box of vegan chocolates. They can be slipped into a bag so won’t have to be carried about. They also show some thought that you’ve remembered she’s vegan and have taken the time to find them

Personally I wouldn’t like flowers, and definitely not a cuddly toy. But everyone’s different.

I wouldn't like flowers tbh

Does she like flowers

Don't send them to her house you've only been out twice that's way OTT

just turn up and smile and have a good time. Sounds like she likes you.

If you must do something the vegan chocs is a better idea

Years ago someone I met the previous week sent me a rose asking me out.

Foolishly I said 'no' as I'd just and only just, started seeing my then 'ex dh'

Oh what I fool I was.

(No Mumsnet back then)

This guy was not only handsome and later very successful (we were both early twenty s ) but obviously romantic and really keen.

He even came round ti my house to gentle ask if I'd changed my mind - oh he was lovely , but as I was seeing someone so it was a no - still kicking myself.

Go for the flowers.

Whatever happens she'll never forget the gesture.

Vegan chocs is a good idea. Then you can say, I saw this and thought you might like to try them! As there are so many new vegan things about. Which doesn’t sound so full on. But does show you’ve been thinking about her and her likes.

I’d feel embarrassed waking around with a bunch of flowers, and even more so if the person who gave them to me carried them around. It makes holding hands, hugging, kissing etc logistically awkward. I agree with the vegan chocolates that can be put in a bag.