Dating advice for a man third date.

[HeresMe]

Hi
Just after a bit of advice.

Going to have a third date next weekend with a lady I'm a bit smitten with.

Had a great couple of dates second date, no awkward silences just lots of chatting, she's vegan found a nice place to take her and I ate vegan too.

At end of date I went for hug ,and peck on cheek, I'm pretty sure she went for a kiss, haha ended up a sloppy half kiss.

Third date is just before valentine's Day do I get flowers. Do I greet her with a hug.

I'm old enough to know better but want to do things right.

Or any kind of vegan thing
Maybe a carrot or a parsnip!

She may have hayfever?

Depending on the date, Could you buy her flowers just before you depart? If she is going home?

I would run a mile from someone who gifted me a cuddly toy or scarf on a third date (or any date quite frankly) I hate cuddly toys and scarves are just a big no. Although I did get given a keyfir (Palestinian scarf) on a second date once and I still have and wear it proudly- but it's a political statement not a romantic gift.

My local florist does tiny wildflower bunches which are pretty and delicate- I would appreciate those. But garage flowers or roses are both a big no from me.

The best thing you can give her is a big smile when you meet up and a comment about how great she looks.

I'm cracking up at the idea of giving someone flowers in a Chinese take away tub. I have no idea what that means but I'd be very unimpressed if someone gave me anything in a Chinese take away tub on a date.

One of these, not the other!

I wouldn't like to get flowers on a date unless they were coming to my house to pick me up. I'm not fussed about flowers anyway.

A small box of vegan chocolate would be fab though.

Vegan chocolates are a great idea! Get a box that is small enough to go in her bag but nicely presented... I like the idea of you being able to say that you saw it and wondered if she’d like to try them (like a PP said) so it’s sweet - it’s shows you’ve been thinking of her but isn’t too big of a gesture in case she is shy or awkward

No to flowers, as they would just die during the date! Valentine card / vegan chocs for the end of the date perhaps!

Don't get anything, it's way too much.

Thanks everyone I will go with consensus and a small box of vegan chocolates.

And thanks for comments about me being lovely, I'm not I'm just trying my best.

@MrsTerryPratchett I was wondering that too 😂

I wouldn't expect a gift on a third date - just show up and show her a good time.

When you're invited to her house, then take a gift ;-)

For me, there is never a bad time to receive flowers!!

Love your thoughtfulness.

Wish I could meet someone to buy flowers for !

Good luck, OP. You sound like a good 'un.

@MrsTerryPratchett thanks for clarifying. I too was very confused.

But clearly you just have a better class of chines takeaway where you live, compared to mine

Nope, mine comes in a crappy plastic vat container. But stationery shops and florists have the posh kind.

I'm imagining the OP turning up with a polystyrene container full of garage carnations now.

Vegan sausage roll?

Vegan sausage roll?

That was last date before I met her got her a vegan sausage roll and a donut, thinking back I'm sure physiologists would have something to say.

I'll just try and do my best. At least a third date means she is a bit interested.

I wouldn't actually like turning up to a date to flowers. I know that sounds a bit weird but its just awkward. I think a small box of chocolates is fine or send something to her home on actual valentines day.
You sound very caring so I'm sure whatever you do, you will do just fine!

I love receiving flowers.

As a vegan I would also be very appreciative of someone who made the effort to research a date venue that could cater for me - you've done very well there! My BF did this evening we started dating and it meant a lot to me.

I hope you have a lovely date! Good luck! ❤️

Oh and for vegan chocs, you can't go wrong with a small box of Booja booja or Hotel chocolat gianduja truffles.

@Welshmaenad

Haha my lady is Welsh too, I've been outing but if she sees it on here I've carried my self off ok on here.

I'll do vegan chocs and hope for best.

Welsh and vegan?

She sounds top quality

Oh my - you sound lovely and considerate.

I think a small box of vegan chocolates would be ideal. Its thoughtful, romantic and very easy to slip into a handbag.

I do love flowers and would absolutely appreciate them but it is a bit awks ferrying them about on a a night out. Maybe you could keep them up your sleeve (figuratively speaking) for a night when you perhaps go to her house for dinner.

That was last date before I met her got her a vegan sausage roll and a donut, thinking back I'm sure physiologists would have something to say.

Oh that cheered me up!

Unless you are both asexuals (in which case you'd probably have met on a ace website and not been agonising over it) then a scarf r cuddly toy is just horrific.

Flowers? Useless unless you give them at the end of the date so she can easily take them home, if you give them at the start then it's totally weird.

Date 3 is the maximum I'd go to without having sex. If you were still faffing over "kiss or hug" at that point, I'd take it that you didn;t fancy me and/or were ace.

Although I would not be put off if you gave me flowers they are not really my thing and I would be worried about putting them down and forgetting them or them wilting .
A small box of nice vegan chocs are a good idea, can you get to somewhere like hotel chocolate to get them ? they do a decent range of vegan ones .

But as PP have said dont over think things to much relax and enjoy each others company .