I'll start the thread by saying - I know women do this too...
Saturday night out with some friends in town, got chatting to a guy who was really persistent in trying to talk to me. I wasn't out to meet anyone, still healing from the breakdown of a horrible abusive relationship really (which is probably why I've reacted in such an extreme way to this!)
Anyway we talked, danced, eventually had a kiss. He was a fair bit older than me - I asked during conversation 'you're not married are you?' He assured me he wasn't due to lack of wedding ring. I said that rings can be removed and he made a big thing of saying there would be a mark if he normally wore a ring.
Outcome of the night was he invited me back to his hotel. I said there was no way I wanted to sleep with him, not into one night stands etc. He asked me to go back and talk and cuddle. I did and he was a complete gent, and we just talked, cuddled, kissed and slept.
We'd swapped numbers the previous night; he was visiting from another city. He text me within an hour of leaving, he said he wants to come and visit, I happen to be visiting his city within the next few weeks (have friends there) and we had spoken about it the night before so I reminded him of the conversation and he said he'd love to.
Few hours later he texted to say he hadn't been honest and is married. 'Sorry'. Just what the fuck. So repulsive. I asked outright and now I feel 1. Guilty
- Just crap
3, An idiot
He told me details about how his marriage supposedly broke down! I just can't get my head around this level of lying. I think I'm upset because it's been a long long time since I have allowed myself to feel any kind of excitement about a man and the moment I did it feels like a kick in the teeth. Sorry it's so long and rambly.