How did you go on when your parents passed ?

[Werkinggirl]

For those of you whose parents have passed or one of your parents. Mine are both still alive, but getting older, life is short and that time will come. I'm incredibly close to mine, also have a younger brother (12 years younger) who I care dearly about. I worry about anything happening to them and I don't think i'd be able to go on living if they went. I'm single with no children either so I would have nobody.

My mum died last year (after a long illness), and my dad died several years ago. The truth is, you just go on. You just keep going through each day, and after some time, the pain isn’t as bad. That’s all.

Forgive me, English isn't my first language and survive wasn't accurate.

Beamur

Curiously since her death I've had to rethink how I feel about myself too. I am changed by this.

Can you explain a bit more about this?

Please don't spoil what you have now worrying about what happens later

Yes to this!! I know it’s terrifying thinking of them dying but they’re alive now and worrying about it won’t alter when they die. Enjoy them, love them, spend lots of time with them, and don’t ruin these times by constantly thinking ‘oh god how will I cope when you die’.

I lost my mum in 2014, she was nearly 65. My dad is in relative good health and he is active and generally well. However, he has had various periods of illness a few years ago and it was very scary. You, the child, have to step up and be the adult and it is tough seeing a parent in pain and distress. I'm nearly 40 but dont feel adult enough to do this.

I lost my dad 28 years ago, a week after his 65th birthday. I was 24. It was devastating. You don’t get over it, you just learn to live with it.
My mum is still alive at 91. She’s had Alzheimer’s for the last 6 years though, so in a way it feels like I’ve already lost her. She doesn’t know I’m her daughter. Heartbreaking.