Ok it sounds like you have good boundaries so that’s a positive thing
It is also a thing to be so hyper aware of red flags/bad behaviour from men that you jump to make assumptions about people before giving them the opportunity to respond to you. This is probably due to being treated badly in the past and all the stupid stuff other women will tell you ‘if he likes you you will know it he will drop everything’. This is not true whatsoever so you probably need to rewrite this all again from a rational perspective
Also all those threads about ‘love at first sight’ and ‘meeting the man of your dreams in tescos’ is very often wishful thinking and not actually the reality for a lot of people. Women tend to try to sell other women 2 things - 1. The dream of Prince Charming and 2. That all men are awful
Sexist stereotyping is something we grow up with - men make all the running and means they are keen. This is maybe true in a confident man and also a game playing one.
Which one is which? Who knows? You know by the other things they do. A man who will drop everything to see you is not the ideal man. The man who is polite to you and treats you nicely by responding to you (even if it is a no) has a good chance of being a nice guy. He has boundaries. You have them why can’t he?
Firstly remember that the face everyone has on them they present to the world in dating is their best self.
You can’t invest in someone’s best self face can you, because you need time to get to know who they really are. Otherwise you risk throwing yourself into something way too fast and you will get hurt.
It’s really tempting to want to rush the whole first part of dating and move to an exclusive committed relationship because it feels safer and you are more in control of it. But in reality you are just as in control of your own life whether he texts you back or not. No one is forcing you to date anyone.
Someone not wanting to be with you isn’t always a reflection of you, it could also be them and their own issues. Wasting time trying to work people out all the time is energy you could spend on doing something productive
You need to rethink things
How are you making the other person feel when you don’t give them the opportunity to reply to you, or you always think the worst of them. It is not a nice feeling for the other person to feel like they need to prove something, it is unfair and controlling.
You need to stop for a moment before you do anything needy and attention seeking and ask yourself ‘is this going to be embarrassing? Should I do that? Why am I doing it’. Put phone down and walk away from it
You can only control what you do, not others. Don’t find yourself in a situation where you are trying to manipulate or engineer things that make you feel better maybe at the detriment to the other person
And walk away if something doesn’t feel right. Don’t waste your life trying to analyse and fix and work around something that just isn’t right for you