Ghosted. What now?

[PollyJean]

So I have been ghosted by someone who I was in a relationship with for 1.5-2 years. He just disappeared a month ago and I haven’t heard from him since. I texted once but no reply. Before then we were in touch about 3-4 times a week. What next? How do I deal with this? I don’t think blocking him will give me any closure.

Wow! Are you on his social media?

Seems to be the time of year unfortunately.

I’d ignore him completely as its the only way to treat a scumbag.

2 years?
I'd be more concerned that something has happened to him

Remove him from your phone, social media, email, etc.

He's either an arsehole or he's dead. Either way, you just need to focus on getting over the loss of the relationship and moving on with your new life.

Do you know he’s still alive?

I was once in a relationship with a guy who regularly "disappeared" when he was ill or depressed. Would ignore texts, then would pop up again when he felt better. No way to treat someone though, eventually I got fed up with it.

Do you know where he lives to go round? Any of his friends or family? 2 years is a long time to be with someone and be ghosted.

I’m confused. Why don’t you just go to his house?

How awful. Could you contact his friends or family? Seems a long time together just for him to ghost you. Hope nothing sinister has happened xx

I could contact him again by texting again or calling but I’m 90% sure he’s just no longer interested and I don’t want to humiliate myself further. I always knew he was selfish but loved him anyway. I just didn’t realise he was this much of a coward.

He’s a funny one. He never wanted to be friends on social media. I think he had a terrible fear of rejection. Ironic, huh?

This seems very odd for a 2 year relationship though. I think he owes you a little more than just a ghosting

He's either an arsehole or he's dead.
Made me smile!

He’s a funny one. He never wanted to be friends on social media.

He's got someone else more like.

I don’t want to go to his house if he has effectively dumped me. I don’t think he’s dead or ill.

We hadn’t fallen out or argued or anything.

Do people really ghost a 2 year relationship?! I woukd be really worried about him.

Any man who refuses to add you on their social media has another woman on the go.

I’m the kind of person who makes excuses for people and forgives almost anything but I’m beginning to get a bit tougher.

If he’s alive and he cares he’ll contact me right?

But maybe he won’t and I would rather have some closure.

Why are you so certain he’s ghosting you if you haven’t argued or anything? Do you know any of his family or friends?

We have some mutual acquaintances who wouldn’t have seen him in the last month but they would have heard if he was seriously ill or dead. I think that kind of bad news travels fast. Previously these acquaintances messaged him about something ages ago and he completely ignored them so I’m not going to get them involved.

2 years and you aren't friends with his family or friends? He must have cared to have been around that long. Ghosting is befitting on this one.

As another pp says, why haven't you been round to his house? Someone you've had a longterm relationship with just disappeared a month ago and all you've done is text him once?

Were you having an affair with him?

I would go to his house and demand an answer. To pretend like you don’t exist after two years is ridiculous.

how horrible OP... please Block him... it at least gives you control back