This isnt ATAAT ....
Last person I dated didn't like to get close during sex. He would hardly touch my, only kiss after he climaxed, almost no foreplay, didn't like penetration... it's like he would try to be as far away as possible. If I initiated, he would go limp.
Anyhow... several times, when we were physically close, he would put his hand around the base of my throat- just resting it there. It made me uncomfortable.
That's really nowhere near normal, right?