Bf went to a girls house he dated b4 me at midnight to return her things?

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So I found a uber receipt on my bf email account going to a girls that he dated for a bit before me. I asked him about it as I was absolute mortified. He said that he went to her house to return her belongings and just close the door for good, As he wanted to be with me.
The event of that eve:
He was out drinking with his friends afterwork and didnt get home till 11.30pm. He said he had planned to meet her earlier but got carried away with the drinks. She apparently was waiting for him in her car outside his house and then got fed up and drove home. When he got in he messaged me asking how my eve was but then took an uber to her house. I've asked him many time if he had slept with her etc and he said he didnt. When he got to hers, they got in her car, he made her drive towards his house as he didnt want to pay for another uber. They spoke, as he hadn't seen her for a while as she had been travelling. He returned her belongings to close the door on her etc and said he didnt want to see her no more. He said she started crying in the car and remembered him feeling really bad for her. He then got out her car and walked home. I just dont get why he had to see her that late at night, but he said he was planning to see her earlier but got late cos of the drinks and that he just wanted to get it all out the way.
I want to believe him but I still have doubts... what do you guys think?

If his story is true then he's an asshole anyway!
He planned to meet her at his house, nearly an hour round trip from her house, forgot about meeting her so she drove him.
He then paid for an Uber to hers and expected her to do another hour round trip home because he's that much of a cheapskate?

I personally wouldn't believe his story anyway, makes no sense to do that at that time!

that should have said that he forgot about meeting her so she drove home.

No they dont live an hour away. Its 20 min drive according to the uber receipt

Bf went to a girls house he dated b4 me at midnight to return her things

No, he didn't. Don't be a mug.

OP you obviously want to believe him so you have to put it out of your head and move forward without driving yourself mad questioning it. Just don’t think that because some people have said he’s lying and you shouldn’t believe him everyone wouldn’t be supportive if something else happens and you need support.

MASSIVE DUMP

So I decided to contact the girl and checks out everything he said was true. Before you all start going off on one, no I didnt tell him that I was about to contact her. She pretty much said everything he said. Just shows how much negativity there is on these forums rather than help and advice!

I'll let you lot carry on!

He is an arsehole. Look how he’s treated his ex. I’d never treat anyone like that. You think I’m an arsehole cos I’m telling you something you don’t want to hear.

As I’ve said, you’re well suited to him and I’m sure you’ll be very happy together.

I thought we couldn’t call people arseholes if we’ve never met them? 🤔

You’re behaving ridiculously. It makes me think you’ve found out he did cheat and now you’re venting to the people who tried to help. Like when people are told by their friend their husband cheated and ‘shoot the messenger’.

Lol is this forum for kids?! You call yourselves grown ups. I'm most probs half your age and still know how to talk properly to people. 😂

And no I'm venting because of the lack of support. I was honestly shocked at how negative you people on this forum are. I was already down as it is to the point I ended up reaching out to the girl because all I was reading was negative BS on her.

Dont bother replying back!

And dont "think" you know. I've reached out to her myself and found out. I was extremely close on walking out on him before I even contacted her which actually reassured me that he is telling the truth.

You’re behaving like a silly little child having a temper tantrum. Many people have you good advice in your tome of need and took their time to do so. You should’ve just updated and thanked the people you felt helped, not had a silly strop. You and your boyfriend have behaved poorly. I feel sorry for the ex caught in between you both.

Omg! What advice? You seem to have alot of time on your hands this eve so Please do go through the forum and highlight all the help????

A silly child coming from you? Who clearly is trying to start something by saying I clearly found out from her he cheated or whatever it was u said in ur last post. I feel sorry for who ever u are with who has to deal with a negative person like u.

I wont be replying anymore to this forum, so go ahead and yap your gums as much as you like. I've actually got things to do this evening!

Good for you, ignore the weird reactions on here. Seriously, I'm not sure what happened with the comments. Best of luck, sweetheart!

This doesn't really make sense-why was she waiting at his to get her stuff back if she didn't realise they'd split up?

That escalated🤔

Bloody hell, that escalated quickly.

Naughty, naughty MNetters giving their opinion when asked for it. How very dare you!

Side note: Yap your gums is now my phrase of the week.

You said she lives 25 minutes away by car so that's 50 minutes round trip...nearly an hour! And he expected her to do it twice.

Oh my, I remember those days 😌 My bf and I had a break and I’d call him (usually after going to a club) and either he’d come to me or I’d go to him. We’d definitely shag.

Op, his ‘ex’ could also well be lying (probably is to avoid the agro)...but believe what you want to. Best of luck with Prince Charming.

Brilliant. Just brilliant.

OP, you have verification now that he didn’t cheat, but the fact remains that he has treated this woman with great disrespect.

He made arrangements for her to drive to his house and she made the effort, as she thought they were together. He could have ended things with decency right then and there, but he prioritized getting drunk and stood her up. At midnight he appeared at her house and (again) could have ended things, but prioritized using her as a taxi service and didn’t break up until almost home, leaving her to drive the 20 miles back while devastated.

His behavior shows that he can be entitled and selfish, and is capable of treating people with much disregard.

Her telling you what happened and it being the same story as his doesn't mean nothing happened..It could mean he predicted you would contact her and told her his story for her to corroborate.

The going to hers in the middle of the night with her belongings in a taxi is just bizarre.

Anyway, you seem happy with the explanation and ultimately that is all that matters.