Bf went to a girls house he dated b4 me at midnight to return her things?

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So I found a uber receipt on my bf email account going to a girls that he dated for a bit before me. I asked him about it as I was absolute mortified. He said that he went to her house to return her belongings and just close the door for good, As he wanted to be with me.
The event of that eve:
He was out drinking with his friends afterwork and didnt get home till 11.30pm. He said he had planned to meet her earlier but got carried away with the drinks. She apparently was waiting for him in her car outside his house and then got fed up and drove home. When he got in he messaged me asking how my eve was but then took an uber to her house. I've asked him many time if he had slept with her etc and he said he didnt. When he got to hers, they got in her car, he made her drive towards his house as he didnt want to pay for another uber. They spoke, as he hadn't seen her for a while as she had been travelling. He returned her belongings to close the door on her etc and said he didnt want to see her no more. He said she started crying in the car and remembered him feeling really bad for her. He then got out her car and walked home. I just dont get why he had to see her that late at night, but he said he was planning to see her earlier but got late cos of the drinks and that he just wanted to get it all out the way.
I want to believe him but I still have doubts... what do you guys think?

He’s a liar and an arsehole or he’s an arsehole. Either way I wouldn’t want to be with him!

Well, you seem to have decided to both believe him and angst over it. That isn't healthy. You have to make up your mind, one or the other. If you don't you will continue to pick at it, making yourself miserable.

Tale a deep breath: what do you believe happened? What do you want to do about it?

So he was happy for his ex to do an almost hour long round trip at silly o'clock because he didn't want to pay for an uber back, when he was the one who let her down earlier that day and then turned up drunk and unannounced? What a charmer lucky for her that his story isn't true

Could easily be true if you were only just becoming exclusive.

If he has done nothing since to wave a red flag I think you should accept it. If you were any further into the relationship then no but at this stage it is plausible.

Surprisingly I asked him once if we could do it in a car, he said straight up no. Even when we book a room, hed always do the curtains as if anyone would see us from the 5th floor. So I know hes conscious about stuff like that. But thank you for your reply.

She drove him back down as she wasnt aware, it was only after she pulled over they spoke. I'm sure she wouldn't have dropped him off had he told her before.

To be honest, it doesn’t matter whether it’s true or not. You don’t trust him, so that’s the end of the relationship.

Thank you.
Literally 2 days before this happened he asked me if I've locked everyone off as he really likes me. I said there is no one else and he said the same. 2 days after this happens. But I only found the receipt back in December. And when I asked him about it this is what he said. Then when I reflected back I remembered the convo we had 2 days before that day.

Why was she sitting outside his house? Presumably he arranged to meet her. And then got so carried away drinking he didn't bother. How fucking rude - ex or not.

So drinking problem, complete lack of consideration and expects you to believe the most idiotic excuse ever!

I'm already feeling down about this, need to for the constant rude replies. I'm seeking for advice.

Don't listen to his words. Listen to his actions. He was out drinking. He got a taxi to her house. He didn't tell you of this before during or after. They must have been texting during the night prior to the uber. If you really wanted to dig some more get him to show you his timeline in Google maps. That way he can prove he got in a car but it won't prove what they did. You're only a few months in. Withholding the truth is lying so please save yourself the heartache and dump now.

I think he’s full of shit.

What a load of bollocks.

Hang on he took an uber to her house, without her things, got her to drive him back, and then gave her her stuff? Why couldn't he just text her to meet him at his? Why did he take an uber even if he had her stuff with him, which is really weird to have on a night out?

He's lying. He slept with her.

If he isn't lying either, he's really really stupid, because there were much more obvious, easier solutions than how he handed over her stuff. Not much of a catch.

A likely story..
Sorry lovely, he's lying.

Why is there nothing on his phone from September? There’s stuff on my phone from five years ago! Either he’s deleted it to hide something or it never existed. Sorry but he’s spinning you a lie, I agree nobody goes to their ex’s house to drop stuff off at midnight. You’re a fool if you believe his story.

I'm in the minority here clearly but I believe him. I've got loads of male friends and 2 brothers who would handle this in this arse about face way.
Basically he went out with mates he knew he had to give her stuff back that evening. He stayed out too late, got drunk and th ought "shit I better still give her stuff back"
Grabbed her stuff got an uber to hers handed over stuff, then can I get a lift home I can't/don't want to pay for an uber. She thought they were ok with each other until he said pull over then I don't want to see you any more. She cried, he got out and walked home. It's not that far fetched, more unlikely that they shagged at her house with her whole family there or in the car I'd say.
But then I don't watch any soaps or see deception everywhere.
Ultimately OK it's up to you whether you believe him after all we don't even know him.

One person on here has already admitted trying to get her BF back in this way . My son's ex did exactly the same thing - moving belongings at midnight - thinking she could entice him back I think . Men are pretty stupid at times. I think I would probably believe him .

Thank you for your reply. I think the time he went to hers was absolutely ridiculous. But 2 days before this happened I do remember us having a convo about locking off our options and being together. Which makes me think hes telling the truth .

How old are you all op? I'm guessing young?

As they both live with their parents I also don't think anything happened and it's as he says, he's just a bit of a twat.

Are you all quite young OP? I only ask because for what actually happened this all sounds very dramatic and OTT.

Personally I think it sounds like he got pissed and called his ex to meet up. Doesn't necessarily mean they shagged or anything but it would upset me. BUT I recognise that's sheer speculation, which is all anyone can give you.

Because literally anything could have happened, you'll never know so there's no point obsessing over it.

Assume you'll never "know" what happened on the night. Can you let it go or not? Just decide that and get on with your life with him or without him.

Thank you @thestuffedPenguin I totally think he was stupid for the time he went over. But apart of me does believe him but then the only thing that pisses me off is the time. Appreciate your support x

He got his dick wet 100%

It's the sort of daft crap I would have done. (Did at least twice) As pp says drunk blokes don't always think straight.
Go with you're instincts, don't over think it.

Thank you! Dont get me wrong I think he is totally stupid for doing this. I've questioned him about this when hes been sober ame when hes been tipsy drunk thinking if he is lying he will slip up the story. But it was the same both times and hes adamant hes telling the truth.