DP secretive over phone

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Everywhere DP goes his phone is in his back pocket, when it's charging it's in the kitchen and he can see it from living room. If I'm in the kitchen cooking and he's in another room he'll take the phone away with him. Same when he goes to toilet or into bath/shower he always take it with him. He will never leave it in the same room as me.
Few weeks ago I was having a nap and he was came into bedroom for a few minute, he lay down and quickly fell asleep so I told him to have a sleep and I'll go back in with DC, he said OK but could not have leaped out of bed fast enough to get his phone from front room to take into bed with him, whereas if it was I'm his pocket I would have barely got a reply from him.
This morning is alarm from the day before went off early (I was already awake) he didn't need it and it didn't wake him up so after about 10 seconds I went to switch it off. Found it tucked under the bed and notice when I switched it off airplane mode was on, so it's no as if he had it there incase any important calls etc!
I've mentioned it before and he always claims its 'habit' or has even tried to turn it round and claim that's how I am with mine. (I'm not!)
Am I being over dramatic about this? I know a lot of people like to have their phones on them but I've tried to sum up the extremes of it and it just doesn't sit right with me somehow.

There's something on his phone he doesn't want you to see.

Hmm it's a tough one - do you know the passcode op? Would you even be able to get into it?

Hmm a bit suspicious

I'm just thinking, if there's a passcode and you wouldn't be able to get into his phone anyway I'm not sure what he'd have to hide

Sorry but in my experience airplane mode is used to stop messages coming in that you might see.

He’s obviously up to something. Either an ea or pa.

He's hiding something for sure

Has he always been like it or is it a new thing?

He might just put it on airplane mode to stop it disturbing him in the night.

You are being ridiculous

I take my phone everywhere with me too.

I would be suspicious of him taking it to the toilet/shower etc - why would need it in there?.

@Livebythecoast because when he's having a big poo he might want to scroll through facebook.
People used to have magazines and newspapers in the bathroom.

hes hiding something

Is this a new thing or has he always brought his phone everywhere?

Def suspicious. When mine does it I make a point of asking him. Doesn’t do it now. When he did he was up to something. He’s not forgiven btw.........

@GiveHerHellFromUs - oh okay, each to their own! I'm never long enough having a poo to scroll through social media but he may suffer with constipation I suppose . Sorry to derail the thread, as you were....

He always has had phone on him a lot but its to new extremes recently, as I said rushing into a room before me to get to it etc.
I do know his passcode, he seems to use that as justification for what blatantly looks suspicious..

@Livebythecoast I think it's a man thing. My DP spends about half an hour on the toilet (not pooping the whole time I'm sure - he just uses it as his quiet space I think ) on his phone

Any other signs? Anything else changed?
If it's a new extreme he is probably hiding something.

I can see why this would look suspicious.

The best thing to do would be talk to him about it, tell him that it's weird how he acts.

I keep my phone close to me too, but I wouldn't run to get it if my partner was going to be in the room alone with it .. because ultimately I have nothing to actually hide.

However..

I always keep mine screen down, as I have anxiety and always feel like I need to respond to notifications immediately if I see them. It's always on silent, too.

It always comes into the bathroom with me, as I got locked in because the door jammed last year, and I vowed to never be without a way of contacting someone.

I sometimes put mine on Airplane mode when it's charging, or on low battery, as it conserves the battery and makes it charge quicker.

Just have a think whether there is a reasonable explanation. Has he always been like this? If it's recent behaviour then that would give me more cause for concern than if he'd always been that way.

I'd assume airplane mode while sleeping means you won't hear constant messaging etc if he's hiding something. Definitely suspicious, do you have reason to think he's hiding anything?

I think this looks suspicious but it might be innocent. How are things between you otherwise?

@GiveHerHellFromUs - ewww, I can think of nicer rooms for my 'quiet space' than the bog!

OP - you're never going to know unless you snoop but it doesn't sound like there is an opportunity for you if he's always got his phone with him. The only other thing would be to tell him you're suspicious and could he show you his phone. If he flaps/refuses then you know something isn't right. I know if my DP asked I wouldn't hesitate as I have nothing to hide (although I would feel upset he didn't trust me)

I think he's hiding something x

@Livebythecoast I don't know, our bathrooms quite nice

OP I don't think any of us can really tell you whether he's hiding things because some of us think his behaviours really normal and some don't.

Does he get nervous if you walk into the kitchen while his phone is charging? Will he come and get it then?

I'd be making a joke and say "wow, your sure attached to that these days. Do you think you have a problem?"