Narcissistic control

[SueDoeName]

Looking for advice

Without wanting to be an armchair psychologist my ex ticks many boxes for narcissistic personality disorder.

His mum I also diagnosed but he isn't .

He was an absolute tyrant. He won as king as I lost . This relationship cost me dearly. It ended 3 months ago and I've been off work and in counselling since .

The issue is he still has some of my things. I have asked for them back repeatedly but he said he would "give me them back when he was ready "

I realise this is just another form of control. So I made the decision to write them off for time being and go no contact.

How can I get my things back ? Includes my door key and some paintings of sentimental value .

I work in law . I do t want to drag my profession into this. My colleagues know he was a controlling man and some have called it coercive control ( it was ....but I don't want my job dragging into this now especially now it's over )

I don't want to contact him but I want my things and my key .

How do I get my things back without reporting him ?

No living child . No.

Oh I’m so very sorry. I didn’t understand the memory box. I do now.
Even more so then you need this man out of your life so you can rebuild it. If he still has any power over you, you will not be able to heal. And that is the most important thing for you. X

Thanks around I think I honestly know that and is why I'm letting everything go . For now . I've 5 years of narcissistic abuse to heal from. He seemed to get a kick out of it . And I just loved him so much I kept trying to find ways to avoid the abuse. And I couldn't no matter what I did. A friend of mine said he only won if I lost . How very true. She left tho she couldn't stand watching it . We aren't in touch now . He
Cost me an awful lot .

When our baby died he was horrible to me. Why I put up with it I'll never know. He left me alone for 6 weeks after. I had no food in the house but couldn't face going out . He just left me. He came to get funeral then Disappeared . I never got any explanation or sorry. He just
Told me was
An embarrassment to
Him for being off work. He berated me . He quite enjoyed the attention it brought him though I think. He told me about the women flocking to
Him with their sympathies.

Cunt .

Guess I need to write my things off .