Do you and long term partner laugh together?

[Whereisthelaughter]

I've read a couple of threads in the last week which have touched on this as part of a wider issue, but it is something which has niggled at me for a while.

Been with partner for 15 years. We don't sit and laugh together. We will laugh AT things which happen together, at a funny show, a comedian etc. We both have a sense of humour. But we don't ever sit and talk and have light hearted chats where we make each other laugh. I don't want to be rolling around on the floor in stitches all night, but when I meet up with my friends, they and I laugh a lot together.

Is this just a symptom of a long relationship? We get along, we can sit and chat etc. But we never have that light hearted chit chat, fun and laughter.

Probably sounds ridiculous to ask, but interested to hear if there are a lot of people in long term relationships who have sustained it.

20 years, still giggle at each other daily, though saying that he's getting on my nerves tonight!

DH will tell me things about his day that make me laugh and vice versa, is that the kind of thing you mean? Show me stuff on social media he found funny that he thinks I will?

Been together 3 and a bit years and laugh every day. Never laughed with my exH- or talked really!

DH just got out of hospital, and we’re both wildly stressed for different reasons, but we’ve still had several good laughs this evening. Getting on for 28 years together.

Constantly. Our kids always say “they’re giggling like kids again...” I couldn’t be with someone that didn’t make me laugh. It’s probably what did/still does attract me to him most.

Been with DH 18 years and yes we still have a laugh together. Mostly we would need to be out somewhere without distractions to have a decent conversation with each other (like having dinner or drinks etc). We also have a bit of daft chatter when settling into bed for the night.

Nah we don't laugh much. Little laughs here and there but nothing compared to laughing with my friends or sisters.

Yes but I’m hilarious so that helps.

After 15 years there is no laughing or small chit chat between me and DH anymore. Feels very dull and boring tbh. I do enjoy going out with friends because I get a lot of what I'm missing from DH with them.

Laugh with mine all the time. We're a pair of comedians.

The sex isn't like mind blowing but I spend every day laughing at least...

Yes, we laugh often together, when we have time to chat just the two of us. It has been a huge comfort when life has been tough going. We have been together for twenty five years.

@Middersweekly bedtime daft chatter is the best.

Nearly 20 years and 4 kids later and he's one of very few people who can really make me laugh. We are far from perfect but we work and the ability to laugh at ourselves, each other and the shit that happens in everyday life is a big part of what binds is together

Fraggot 🤣🤣🤣

Been married 32 years and I often think DH is a grumpy Victor Meldrew type character. But every now and then he will make a genuine funny comment or send a funny text that makes me laugh out loud.

All we do is laugh. We have the exact same sense of humour and it was the reason I fell in love with him nearly 10 years ago. Nobody makes me laugh like he does.

We don't have sex nearly enough, but we laugh and have fun all the time.

Yes a lot. Been together over 30 years. Only in the last few has my laughter included a piggy snort though

Yes we tend to laugh quite a bit. Affectionately take the piss out of each other and ourselves and pun a lot/make silly pop culture jokes.

I don't think it's necessary to be laughing your head off all the time if everything else is good. But it can be a sign of everything else not being good if you don't laugh. Also we Brits are weirdly obsessed with making people laugh. Apparently most people would rather be thought to be bad in bed than to have no sense of humour...

I think it’s a Mumsnet thing, mostly those who do laugh together, post to say they do, because it’s a request that chimes with them and makes them feel good to post (not a criticism of them!). Others, who don’t laugh together, don’t really bother to post.
Thinking of all the couples I know, not many laugh together when I spend time with them - some do, but the minority IME.

Yes, we often do. Going to the pub helps.

I'm a lot less serious than he is, so a lot of our best laughs are at my expense. I tell ripping yarns about the idiotic things I've been up to to make him laugh, and he tells me silly things in a very serious way.

Dp could read the phone book and make me laugh, it’s not a perfect relationship by any means and he makes me laugh much more than I do him but that is 100% his most attractive quality.

DH makes me laugh a lot, one of the reasons I fell for him.

Actually we do. 16 years together and we still make each other laugh.

Thanks everyone. It's hard after such a long time together to know if it is an unrealistic expectation.

We used to laugh together, though in all honesty, he isn't a laugher- odd as that sounds. Has always been a bit of a wry smile kinda guy and rarely belly laughs. Yet in most of my other friendships I tend to be the person who makes people laugh, it's kinda my thing. Hard to tell as that is from this maudlin post!

Much food for thought. Really appreciate the time you've taken to reply.

I think Sparky is right. Not much laughing here. Discussion yes - cracking up, not so much.