Do you and long term partner laugh together?

[Whereisthelaughter]

I've read a couple of threads in the last week which have touched on this as part of a wider issue, but it is something which has niggled at me for a while.

Been with partner for 15 years. We don't sit and laugh together. We will laugh AT things which happen together, at a funny show, a comedian etc. We both have a sense of humour. But we don't ever sit and talk and have light hearted chats where we make each other laugh. I don't want to be rolling around on the floor in stitches all night, but when I meet up with my friends, they and I laugh a lot together.

Is this just a symptom of a long relationship? We get along, we can sit and chat etc. But we never have that light hearted chit chat, fun and laughter.

Probably sounds ridiculous to ask, but interested to hear if there are a lot of people in long term relationships who have sustained it.

Yep, daily!
We are constantly laughing and joking with each other, but we have done since the day we met!

DH makes me laugh pretty much every day. He makes a big effort if I'm down.
He made me laugh so much recently he was concerned I couldnt breathe!
Hes not perfect, but he does try and be funny.

Yes, we still laugh a lot, we've been together over 20 years. He makes me laugh every day, he is a proper man child, in a good way. He is always doing something stupid, he keeps things fun and lighthearted.
He has a very stressful job and I think it really helps being the way he is.
He is currently sat here next to me, working on his laptop, but singing daft songs at the same time, his last one was a very rude version of jingle bells.

Been together 35 years this year. Yes we laugh together, I force him DH was brought up in a very straight laced family and everything was serious. He still says I make him laugh and I love that. I love to see him proper belly laugh.
In all the years I knew MIL and FIL, I never once saw them have a good giggle. God they were miserable bastards. Glad he’s free of them.

Really interesting thread. Like you OP, DH and I laugh at things together, eg TV programme or something funny.

But just chatting and laughing, no. DH is quite serious and we have a different sense of humour. He doesn't do silly/childish which is how my friends and I are.

It is a bit sad, but he has so many other positives I don't really mind the laughter not really being there. Although having said that it's not that we'll never sit and chat and have a laugh, it does happen, but not all the time.

@Whereisthelaughter it's the same with sex posts. Those having it lots will post. Those who arent tend not to. I've read them before and everyone is at it 3-5 times a week, or daily 😱
Comparison is the thief of joy.
We all get different things from our DHs.
Like with friendships. Some of my friends arent that funny, but theyll be very supportive, interesting or insightful. For e.g.

Yes lots of laughter together and don't take ourselves too seriously. .
All work and no play ect .
On the other hand he's the only person I also enjoy a comfortable silence with .... weekends away buried in books for hours on end just lifting up my head to have a cuddle and a cuppa is heaven x

Both my exes over a decade each and not many laughs, my fiance 3 years and we laugh, giggle, be daft and silly quite a lot usually daily!

Yes. It's one of the things I love most about him. I also love seeing him make our DS and our friends laugh.

We have an occasional laugh. We are both quite serious. But after 30 years we do make each other happy.

Only 4 years in but we laugh a lot. Never did with any of my exes. But don’t get me wrong we have our moments when we annoy the hell outta each other and we aren’t as good. Can be for months

26 years together

We make each other laugh most days. Sometimes so much I'm glad I kept up my pelvic floor exercises!

We’re in our early 60s and been together 16 years, laugh all the time, particularly after a joint social occasion where we’ve glanced at each other and known exactly what the other was thinking. Lots of funny stories to tell each other every day and absurdities we notice at the same time in our shared time, but I do appreciate that this isn’t the basis for everyone’s relationships.
Have to say that people who feel the need to turn absolutely everything into a joke are very annoying, though, and there’s room for lots of different emotions in a relationship. Except boredom: please get out if there’s a great slice of boredom

I'm just imagining loads of couples either like the laughing couple or like the 'what did I say Roy' pair from the Cathrine Tate show.

@Insaneinthemembury I see what you're saying, I guess I feel like it is missing (amongst other things) but wondering if it is a bit of a daydream to expect it, so it's nice to hear so many people still do laugh in their relationships after a long time. Sad as it makes me feel that we don't. It makes me realise it's not an unrealistic aspiration I guess.

Yes we laugh together a lot and he makes me piggy snort quite often. We also have long philosophical discussions, and a lot of very good sex.

He’s got his flaws and foibles (as do I), and he makes me SO CROSS sometimes, but I love him deeply, fancy him like mad and we’re still very much in love. 11 years now. 😊

Awww crossposted and now I feel bad, given that you’re sad and feel like something’s missing!

Don't ruin a good relationship with expectations of a funny one.

No.
It was something I noticed when we were started struggling. Everything became very serious.
Luckily I have a few friends who are funny and I enjoy spending time with them laughing and being daft

We do. But mainly because we can happily talk absolute nonsense at each other for hours. Also DH has a very quick dry sense of humour.

@Notso that made me laugh and isn't what I'm aspiring for!! Just the free and easy laughter that comes when I'm with my friends.

And I agree that people who try to turn everything into a joke are annoying, I don't think I'm like that, if I am I'm failing miserably since DH never laughs. It would be tiresome to live with. It just seems a very long time since we did used to laugh freely and easily. Probably the second half of our relationship really has been less like that.

Yes, we have the same humour and say and do similar laughable things. Think along the same lines and I’ll think of something and he’ll say it or do it. It’s very strange. 14 years together.

No we don't, 6 years and we don't tend to laugh together. I'm trying to end the relationship

Don't ruin a good relationship with expectations of a funny one

That's good advice. No partner is all things to us. I can't have straight conversations with DH very easily at any deep level. We can talk about boring day to day stuff or we can mess around and be silly, but try to talk about feelings and he's as much use as a toddler. Well meaning but baffled and dying for you to let him leave the room. I gave up trying to get this aspect of a relationship from him. Instead, it comes from friends and my brilliant brother.

Ya we'd laugh quite a good bit, virtually daily. Always did and we are together 35 yrs now. He can make me smile from across a room if I catch his eye. As someone said earlier up the thread, our sex isnt mind blowing but its good. I would do anything for him and him for me so the intermittent sex isnt as important. I am so happy I found a real partner in him