I want to shave my hair off. All of it

[SatansTemple]

I'm 17stine

I want a new start

I want my whole life to change

I hate myself

I'm hiding behind hair

If I remove it I have nothing to hide behind and I have to start making changes from the inside

Does that make sense

You can have a new start and make some healthy changes op, but cutting your hair off would be a drastic change.

If you want to lose weight then don’t try and make it a race, it needs to be done slowly and carefully.

You speak about yourself very negatively, I think the kindest thing you could do for yourself is to be nice. Would you speak to your friend like that? Think nice thoughts about yourself, you have worth and value no matter what your size is.

It feels like it would be a freedom

I just need to do something now

No, sorry, it really doesn't make sense. You'll feel so much worse if you don't have any hair.

Like many, many women on here, weight problems cause a lot of distress. You're really not alone, OP.

I know what you mean. I’m very overweight but have lovely long hair and a reasonable face. I can still look at myself and like something or focus on my good bits..

How about cutting it short in a different style as a starter?

Go out and get some hairdye. New hair colour, new you. Less drastic.

If you hide behind it out it up away from your face. Think of a hairstyle you'd like and do that no point shaving your head when you're hating yourself. You can make changes gradually to be the way you want to be don't be so hard on yourself

No, I don't think you should do that. I really don't think it would be the answer and would probably make you feel even worse.

Perhaps just get a new haircut.

I find having higher self esteem actually incentivises me to lose weight. So making more effort to look good and feel good will help you more in my experience.

I second the idea of a short, lovely hairstyle. Please don't shave it - it feels like you're trying to punish yourself and you don't deserve that.

I have lost all my hair since starting chemo, believe me there is nothing liberating about it.

I did this years ago. My hair is a very defining feature. It’s clear when I look back now I did it because I was struggling mentally and emotionally and I was making a passive aggressive statement where I wanted people to see I was hurting and I wanted to challenge people into noticing me and into being uncomfortable.
Not saying that’s what you’re doing here but give it serious consideration.
Rather than going straight for shave why don’t you look at some cool short haircuts, maybe go and see a hipster barber, get some cool shapes shaved in? Loads of my friends are getting funky undercuts with cool designs. I have also done this, it’s a fun way to still be edgy without the sideways ‘Karen can I speak to the manager?’ Half shaved head thing.

Op, do you suffer from any mental health issues? I'm sure you're aware that shaving your head isn't going to change your life in a positive way. What will will be making plans and sticking to them, if you're not happy with your weight, for example, then what will you do about it? Being bald isn't going to help with that. It's really not.

Terrible idea. It will not make you hide less.

And as a previous pp said, two of my very close friends lost their hair to chemo and did not find it liberating, just fucking depressing.
Another friend did one of those charity shave things and looked fucking awesome afterwards , I know a couple of people who’ve done this but they’ve done it for very different reasons from yours and I’m not 100% sure about how I feel about the validity of doing this to support cancer when they end up buzzing and liberated with amazing new haircuts and make up ideas and load of attention and acclaim but never having actually had cancer.

I cut my hair short when i was having a mental break down. When i was better i couldnt wait for it to grow.

I didnt want to go to tge hairdresser. I didnt want people to compliment my hair. I didnt want attention. And i got that by chopping it all off myself. I was really unwell.

And i mean, remember britney spears? Please dont do it.

It sounds like you're in a crisis OP, and shaving ones head is something that often happens in such times as a means to feel like you're in control of yourself.

I think you'd regret it and the urge is a red herring. Shaving your head is unlikely to make you feel good about yourself and may cause employment issues etc, sadly.

Changes need to be long term goals, achieved little by little. I would have a sit down with a new pad and pen and write down areas of your life you feel are a problem, and do so positively.

Eg, if weight is an issue, see GP for advice, commit to a healthier diet full of things for good health, download couch to 5k and start slowly. Nothing you do will make you love yourself if you don't stop and work on being kind to yourself.

Changes CAN happen, you are the captain of your own ship. I would call samaritans if you feel urges to make rash changes based on feelings of self hatred, and go to your GP to be referred for some talking therapy. These are things that can make a proper difference to your life, a haircut won't.

Get a really dramatic style cut instead.

Invest in yourself instead of punishing yourself. Treat yourself like you're worth something.

Doing something like this out of self-hate isn't the way to cure it.

Do something like this. There's no way of hiding but it doesn't scream I hate myself.

My DIL took hers down to about 1/2" all over, because she is in school and working and has no time to mess with hair. It looks lovely, almost like a pixie, and she found that her dandruff disappeared.

Op don't do anything till the urge has passed. There is a high chance you'll regret it. As a pp said, the fact you want to, for the reasons you wish to, indicate some form of mental health crisis. As such, recommending you cut it short is really bad advice. You should only make a drastic change when you're emotionally stable.

It does make sense but you say you hide behind it - if it's removed you may feel more vulnerable. Getting rid of it entirely is rather extreme - why not just get it styled really beautifully instead? Then it'll give you something to feel good about and maybe give yourself a more positive starting point for change.

I've done it.

It feels fantastic

Yes. Many mental health issues

I've had many pixie cuts. I didn't want to go to a hairdressers I hate them.

I feel so much lighter

Sorry to hairdressers. I don't mean personally. I mean the process. Mirror staring etc

Hope it's the start of a whole new you, good luck !

Wow Satan, I didn't think you'd do it!

Now, please make sure you look after your newly exposed lovely head. Moisturise it, decorate with earrings (if they're your thing), be proud.

Next step, what are you going to do about your self esteem? What do you think you could focus on? Is there anyone you can ask to help support, motivate, encourage you?