So I just discovered that DH of 8 years has been using chatrooms to "get off". He claims that everything that is discussed is a fantasy and that no real pictures/names/videos are ever used. What's more, he was using this before we met, stopped soon afterwards but then over time has gone back to it frequently, he is unsure of times/dates as to specifically when he has used it, but has admitted it has been for long periods while we have been together. I found the messages by accident on his phone, there were several different chats with several different people.
Would this be considered an emotional affair? Obviously the trust that I thought we had has been broken and I have made it clear to him that if he doesn't stop now it's over. We also have a young daughter. I am a product of divorce so I know first hand how painful it is. Just looking for some perspective on this, thanks.