Is it possible for someone to be into me even though I'm fat?

[confusedyoungthing]

I'm a 24 year old female.
Over the last few years I have put on a lot of weight. I am 215 lbs (15 5st) and wear UK size 18-20 clothes. Yes I know there are people bigger than me out there, however I also have an extremely large chest (38GG) which makes me appear very top heavy and disproportionate. I also feel as though this weight has snuck up on me and I am not used to being 'the fat one' even though I have to accept now that I am.
I got into my last relationship when I was thin and put on some weight during that but even more since we broke up. Now I have met somebody that I'm quite interested in but I feel as though there's no way they could possibly be interested in a fat girl like me?

Of course!
My girlfriend isn’t a small girl but I think she’s absolutely beautiful.

Really? All the larger people you know are single, are they?

Of course! There is more to someone than the clothes size...

yes, absolutely- you are loveable, we all are

Of course someone can be in to you. You can't say no one will find you attractive physically, at any size. And it's personalities that make relationships last, not the initial attraction.

When you say you’ve met someone do you mean in person or on line? Because if it’s in person then they know what you look like.
People like different things.

Of course you can be big and lovable and and great person- being thinner doesn't make you a better person. But please think about your health as it's much more likely to have joint and back problems, heart disease or diabetes if you are obese

Of course! We have 2 sets of friends where the man is in good shape and the woman is really fat. Nether women seem to have any complaints!

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. There is more to a person than their physical body. All my size 16 plus friends are in relationships and those who met via dating sites had plenty of interest.

I'm a size 16 and 14.5 stone my partner genuinely prefers slightly bigger women and thinks I'm beautiful and sexy. Of course men can be interested in bigger women they might prefer it or as others have said actually fall for someone's personality not just looks.

Do you see fat women with boyfriends and partners? Of course you do! Do you think their partners fancy them? Of course they do!
Don't make the mistake of believing that nobody will be attracted to you when overweight. Being totally honest, there are many men who won't, but also plenty who will.
Sincerely, a fat woman!

I've got bigger boobs than you and wear a 20. I'm 5'9. So not small in any way. I have people asking me out etc (I'm just not that in to them)

@confusedyoungthing hey I’m a size 16 15 stone and my fella doesn’t have any complaints even though he’s smaller! I’ve put on 3 stone since we got together and he doesn’t care. But I get ya I have my moments where I’m insecure. But remember confidence is sexy!

Different people find different body shapes attractive. Some men like the athletic build with almost no boobs. Some men like bums and legs. Other men like something to grab hold of or huge boobs. Some men prefer a pretty face to worrying about the shape of a woman. Then there are others who actually fall in love with her personality and don't care what she looks like.
It's a good thing really because we are all different. There is someone for everyone.

Loads of people fancy larger people! And vice versa. We all like different things.

My ex had a definite thing for plus sized women, which was odd because when we dated I was very slim (I’m not anymore!) and now I see he’s married someone very large, good for him, he definitely seems happy.

Don’t let the way you look hold you back.

Yes, absolutely. Aside from the fact that personality is hugely underestimated in attraction, a lot of men are physically attracted to curvy women, especially if they are too heavy! I'm a size 16-18 and a sex worker, so I can tell you without a shadow of a doubt that a huge amount of men are physically attracted to plus size women.

Thank you everyone, this makes me feel a lot better about myself!
Of course I believe that people fall for a personality and would hope somebody would like me for me and not what I look like! But it's good to know they won't be completely turned off by how I look :)

I have a recommendation for you, OP:

Shrill

It's a US comedy-drama currently on BBC Iplayer about exactly your situation.

The lead actress is big and absolutely gorgeous but her character suffers from low self esteem in both her romantic and professional lives, but she slowly begins to realise her own worth - regardless of her size. It's bittersweet and laugh out loud funny in places. (And it has actual British people playing the token British characters - which is always a plus!)

1. I bet you’re gorgeous 2.NEVER put yourself down - don’t do it to yourself. De-valuing myself blighted my life and led me to make some bad choices when it came to men. I was chubby, sure, and I’m not tall, but I thought I had to accept anything. Go out there and slay ‘em

Absolutely.

My weight is up and down and I've been your size.

My husband can't get enough no matter what size I am (anything from a 12-18). I think he prefers me heavier in a way as my boobs are the first to lose the weight.

Do you never look at bigger women and think they look amazing? Because I do.

From the other way round, my (male) partner is around 20 st and he drives me wild. I'm only small. I don't even notice slim men now.

People fall for who they fall for, size isn't as important as we think.

omg yes !!! please don’t ever let anything make u feel like your not attractive bc of your weight. there are so many lovely women who are on the bigger side& who have love !! would def recommend following some body positive instagrammers xx Weight doesn’t make or not make u pretty.

Of my close friends, the person I would consider the most stylish, real presence etc, amazing eye for clothes and just always looks good - she is also the physically largest.

Lots of bigger women have partners it’s not like they are all single