Hookers - warning ExH’s new GF

[Deadtome]

Should I warn exH’s new GF about his fondness for hookers?
And yes, the main driving force would be getting back at him rather than genuine concern for her.

@Cohle
*I'd feel obliged to warn her that her sexual health was in danger. Imagine if she ended up infertile because of something she contracted from him. I don't think it could ever be undignified to try and protect another woman from that?

Would you really? In that case maybe you should stand around these areas and take names of all men who use them.

I have been in your position. Exh is now on gf number 7 or 8 since we split. Would you warn all of them? Don't bother. Live your life. Be grateful you're not with him. Maybe she'll figure him out. Maybe he'll change. Maybe he won't. Not your problem though. Use your energy on yourself. Revenge is a life well lived.

@Framic - you might head back in time and update yourself:

www.theguardian.com/world/live/2018/may/26/irish-abortion-referendum-result-count-begins-live

You might also head back to your fellow punters on another site where you can all post away to your hearts’ content justifying your disgusting opinions and behaviours to your delusional selves.

It will be a waste of time I’m afraid. He’ll tell her he did it because you were cold and unaffectionate and he felt so lonely and unloved and needed sex but didn’t want to have an affair.

She’ll believe him and think that with her it will be different. And it will be - for a while.

@Cheeseandwin5 I'd report a theft if I happened to witness one. That doesn't mean I'm obliged to spend my life as a amateur sleuth, seeking out crime everywhere I go like bloody Miss Marple.

There's clear moral distinction between acting on information you have, and the obligation to go out and seek information that you don't already have about situations that you aren't already involved in.

Nope, not your business. It will come across as bitter and spiteful, because that's exactly what it is.

Yeah I suppose I shouldn’t be bitter about him ruining mine and our DCs lives...

It just might impact on you though.

I understand the motivation. But I don’t think you will be seen as a credible source.

Why not be nice to her? Make it clear you are not a threat. She is going to get hurt badly isn’t she. If she wants to talk to you in the future then she can.

She probably wouldn’t believe you if you did, and he’d paint you as “crazy ex trying to stir up trouble” if she did question it.

If I had the courage I would, deadtome. Simply so that's she's slightly forewarned. She won't listen now, but she might see signs in the future. Without the knowledge, she won't know how to read them. With that warning she might, even though she rejects it now.

Framic what an extraordinary pile of drivel. Hard to know where to even start with such crap, but to pick one tiny point out - very few of the women who exchange sex for money are 150/hour graduates

You've also 'forgotten' that plenty of men like using prostitutes because of the thrill factor.

You might want to consider your use of the word 'paradigm' here too. I do not think that word means what you think it means ... given how you use it.

As for the only non-cheaters you know are only the ones who get lots of sex or who are ugly, you might wanna change your social circle ;) It seems to have deformed your thinking and ability to take in genuine research.

I would stay out of it. He will just tell her you're crazy or that he had no choice to shag hookers bec you were such a witch. Don't bother. Worry about yourself, not her or him.