We have been happily married for 26 years. My husband retired early & works a few hours a week. I am a professional and work long hours, commuting to work.
A year ago he lost a load of weight and took up sports during the day. He was much happier. He started mentioning a lady from work and going for coffee, playing sport etc... with her during the day, I said I wasn’t happy as he was seeing more of her than me. He assured me there was nothing in it & thought she was gay, but that he would see her less.
All fine fine until a few weeks ago. He started dropping her name into the conversation again and seeing her, one of my kids saw her having coffee at our house.
This evening my son had come back from college & said Dad had been out since lunchtime, I phoned my husband and he said he was in a pub with this lady & other people from work. I took the dog out and walked straight into them both. I said hello, he looked at me and they both walked off.
He later said he hadn’t recognised me! They had been out for six and a half hours. He says he made out other people were there too because he knew I wouldn’t like it, they had been for lunch. He admits he is attracted to her but says nothing physical has happened and he will finish it. He won’t let me see his texts as he says taken out of context it will look bad. He says our marriage is very important to him.
I am totally devastated and didn’t see this coming, we get on very well, I thought he was my soul mate. It’s just before Christmas and I was looking forward to a lovely family time together. I’m not sure what to do or believe. He works with her.