Every single day, my partner finds a reason to call me abusive or a bully. I think he does it because he’s projecting.
Anyway today he hadn’t done the washing up which is the ONE job I leave him daily as it’s about the only one he will do of his own accord. I went into the kitchen and as happens nearly everyday, he had half washed up and left the worktops covered in water which runs and ruins the paint.
I pointed this out to him and he said it wasn’t that wet, so I put my hand in it so it was dripping wet and touched his bare arm and said look, it’s dripping wet. (Had sleeves rolled up didn’t get his clothes wet, just water so wouldn’t hurt or stain etc.)
He raises his voice and says “WHAT THE FUCK DO YOU THINK YOU’RE DOING” etc and calls me abusive, tells me I’m abusing him and I’m a bully. For touching him on the arm with a wet hand. That was literally it. It wasn’t hard, wasn’t a scratch or slap, wasn’t chemicals, wasn’t going to stain. 
Am I really abusive, for doing that? Starting to doubt myself 