Need some advice on whether I am being a twat or handling things ok. A year and a half ago, i split from A* toxic narc father of my 2 kids. Utterly brutal, and made worse by him volunteering to tell me about some great new woman he met. I have gone grey stone with him (strictly text. Strictly kids stuff). And N/c with his entire family and all mutual friends. Has been the best decision I made. But still. Feeling invisible and ugly and knew that needed to sleep with someone else to properly move on. Bingo. This last fortnight I finally have. Not some random stranger, but someone I got chatting to in local park this summer. Our kids got on and we swaped numbers. A few texts later, we were agreeing to organise playdate. To cut a long story short, he is definately a player. Has a girlfriend. But not clear what type of relationship it is. It's none of my business and don't ask. Anyways, he invites us for a sleepover one weejend and we do the deed. I did it 100% selfish reasons. And v wrong that kids were about (although asleep and none the wiser). Ego boost that i craved. And it worked. And I have zero regrets. He was very clear that it's not going anywhere. Tbh, given the situation with girlfriend it's a massive, humongous red flag anyway. Enough for me to basically feel fuckable again. It happened again this weekend. After got home, he asked and I agreed to have his son over for sleepover whilst he does charity thing that ends late. Following day, had a bit of text chit chat funny banter. Not even flirty. And then suddenly, out of blue, and much later that night, get a text to say sorry I didn't orgasm with him. Was totally gobsmacked. Replied that was great (it was) and maybe it's cos he's the first person I've slept with other than ex in about 17 years. Also decided to be upfront and tell him that i needed to be careful cos I was beginning to like him too much. (In fact, thank fuck no orgasm. The oxytocin would have finished me off). Anyways, i get very strongly but not hastily worded repeat of no relationship. And he knows i like him too much now. Absolutely 100% fair enough. And glad had conversation. Glad for the straight talking. Has got me thinking that am not a casual relationship person. This has been great for me. But enough before it turns into something not great for me. All well and good. But (And maybe am being crap) why organise the sleepover with son before that conversation? And can't help wondering if he should have asked someone else. Very happy to do sleepover. Lovely boy. Am I over thinking this? Probably. Talk some sense into me please someone. Oh, i know I've been crap and irresponsible. But honestly, have no regrets. My ego was in terminal arrest. The kids still in dark and will stay that way.