New partner doesn't climax during sex

[pinktophat]

I have met someone I really like. We get on extremely well and are both enjoying the start of this relationship. During this time there's about 8 occasions when we've slept together. It's all been fine except he never finishes - he hasn't climaxed. We have not talked this over as I don't want to add stress to the situation.
Why would this be? The mechanics all seem to be fine. He's been single a while with a few short-term relationships so could it be anxiety or something else?

How old is he ?
Any signs of diabetes?

Too much death grip. He needs to give up the alone time and porn for a while

Might be a bit personal if early days but could he be on anti depressants?

Probably used to wanking himself into a coma

What happens at the end? What does he say?
If you’ve slept together 8 times surely you could talk to him?

Lots of women can't finish during sex, or take several months to relax enough with a new partner where they feel they can finish. It's not that unusual. If hes having a good time and you are too, then just let it develop.

I posted a thread once about how a partner didn't take the time to help me finish and at least 20% of responses were that I had no right to "demand" an orgasm as it was just as nice without one, so let's allow that to cut both ways regardless of gender!

Seriously though, if he is happy and keen, dont let it stress you, it's not a sign of anything. Hes human, give him time just as youd want a partner to give you time.

He needs to lay off the porn and wanking for a while

Don’t make a big deal out of it if there’s no other problem.

I’ve known this happen with two different friends. One, he had been single for a while and it was definitely a death grip issue and after a while it sorted itself out. The other, the guy eventually admitted he just didn’t fancy his partner enough and they ended up being hugely sexually incompatible and it was a miserable relationship all ways round.... but that became very obvious very quickly and my friend was hugely unhappy almost immediately. I would suggest if you’re otherwise having a good time it’s probably the death grip thing or nerves and I would have a conversation.

I had a partner with a death grip issue. I made excuses for it at the time but in reality it was unpleasant.

It felt so much nicer when the next partner I had was able to come during PIV and BJs and not involve a 15 minute vigorous wank at the end of sex.

If you have had sex with him 8 times you should feel comfortable enough to speak to him about it. Just as if you weren't orgasming I hope you could talk about that too.

How does it end? Does it feel comfortable and satisfying or comfortable.

You need a chat. My husband has delayed ejaculation and he has to wank at the end and ive put up with it for 15 years and now ive had enough. It really drives me insane. Its a psychological issue for him. It will affect your own confidence and enjoyment after a while so i would address it now.

I've hoped it might just work itself out. He's 40, I'm 35. It has not felt at all uncomfortable and we have both enjoyed each time. He hasn't done any finishing off. We've just finished in a long hug and kissing and it hasn't felt a bad thing, just something I hope will sort itself out.

Death grip. It won't sort itself out. I'd find this far too frustrating to put up with.

Had this issue with a partner and I didn’t care at the beginning but after years, the monotony of sex carrying on when you know the only time it stops is when he decides to call it a day and do it himself pretty much took all the joy out of sex for me. I concluded we may as well just both do it ourselves and be done with it. Death grip porn addiction. Honestly, I would just address it now and be done with it. It will only get more annoying.

It felt so much nicer when the next partner I had was able to come during PIV and BJs and not involve a 15 minute vigorous wank at the end of sex.

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Another vote for death grip. Unfortunately, it tends to be progressive. My ex had this and by the end of our relationship he couldn’t climax with me in the room at all. It was a significant factor in our breakup.

Could be a known side effect of anti anxiety meds like Prozac

It could be a side effect of anti-depressants.

It will help to talk about it. My DP was like this at the start, he is circumcised and I think that adds to the problem as he has less sensation. I mentioned how long it took and he admitted having a wank before our date so that he wouldn’t disappoint me. Things were fine after he stopped that business but we needed to have the discussion.

It’ll be the porn.

Porn is literally the death of sex.

Porn and/or he’s having a wank first so he doesn’t cum too quickly.

He needs to stop wanting

Im in a retationship with someone
who is like this.He actually wanked and came after along session of stimulation . He takes half a tablet to stay erect . He is very keen on sex maybe watching too much porn.

Porn is literally the death of sex.

It sure is.

Sounds like death grip or medication.
My DP struggled at the beginning of our relationship as he takes an anti-depressant. It took a while for him to relax and work out what worked for him and us but he was up front from the start. You should talk to him and work out which one it is. Death grip/porn can be the death knell of a relationship.

Is he on antidepressants ?