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Why would he???

73 replies

Minimaa · 06/12/2019 23:13

Husband of 10 years went on a lads trip to Dubai last week. Our phones are linked so I can see his search history. Whilst he was away he twice searched for morning after pill. He also searched for a viagra substitute. And obviously found one, and shared the details with a friend. Am dying inside. This is not right isn’t it. Moved to a new town about 5 months ago and don’t have family or friends near to discuss this with. Am slowly going mad.

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CantstandmLMs · 06/12/2019 23:14

Wow linked search history? And he does this. What a dick! He's clearly slept with someone unprotected. He has cheated. Get yourself checked if he's been away before...

mildlymiffed · 06/12/2019 23:16

Yup. I would say this doesn't sound right... sorry.

WhoKnewBeefStew · 06/12/2019 23:16

Could it have been for a friend?

whistleinthewind · 06/12/2019 23:16

Am guessing you haven't seen anything since his return? I suppose there's 2 ways to try and find out. Ask him, or look through his phone and then ask him. If it's as innocent as you say then he will have no reason to be cross with how you know... but I've not heard of phones being linked and each other's search history being visible. Just phones and iPads/Mac books?

fligglepige · 06/12/2019 23:17

If he shared with a friend, surely it was for a friend? I've just been googling baby names for a friend, if someone saw my search history out of context they'd think I'm pregnant but I'm not.

Just keep quiet and keep an eye I think.

OhWellThatsJustGreat · 06/12/2019 23:18

I'm assuming he knows you can view his search history? With that in mind I would guess he's done it for a friend. Quite frankly I'd ask him outright.

MMmomDD · 06/12/2019 23:19

OP - is there a particular reason you are monitoring your H’s phone and search history.
Is it general curiosity or you are actually worried about some changes in your relationship?

Since your phones are linked - you must have access to more info. Messages, emails, etc.
Search and share with a friend may be something or nothing. Not sure if he were with a woman why it would be him searching, not the woman. But this is beside the point.

If you feel the need to have this level of surveillance in the absence of problems in relationship then there are issues with you that you need to address.

Pinkbonbon · 06/12/2019 23:20

Disgusting man. Sounds like him and his pal had a dirty holiday. And didn't even use protection.

Hope you haven't slept with him since he got back. Might be wise to get an sti test.

I'd be done tbh.
Even if he claimed it was all his pal.

PurpleDaisies · 06/12/2019 23:22

I’ve googled all sorts of stuff that has no relevance to me personally. I wouldn’t necessarily leap to cheating. Is this friend a man? Could he have been looking for him?

CantstandmLMs · 06/12/2019 23:22

The viagra link he shared but looks like the morning after pill he was searching for himself (for the woman he slept with?). He's on holiday and searching things related to sex, OP is rightly suspicious.

nespressowoo · 06/12/2019 23:23

He shared with a friend, I am hoping this means he's not done anything and it was said friend...

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Minimaa · 06/12/2019 23:24

We all have iPhones so the search history on google can be seen. It’s because I saw it and thought why would the morning after pill be there.

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Ilovethekitties · 06/12/2019 23:25

Have you slept with him since OP? If so, please get an STI check. I'm so sorry.

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Minimaa · 06/12/2019 23:26

No he searched the morning after pill. So because of this I looked in his phone as I just felt it not right and he and his friend were sharing pictures of viagra subs, which he also searched.

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yips · 06/12/2019 23:26

You "all" do? So could it be someone else in the family's search history?

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Minimaa · 06/12/2019 23:27

My daughter is 11. The 3 of us are linked it’s not her

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PurpleDaisies · 06/12/2019 23:28

I know it’s off topic but I wouldn’t want an 11 year old seeing my search history.

TokenGinger · 06/12/2019 23:31

If he's shared it with a friend, my initial thought is friend has slept with somebody and he's searching it for him.

If he knows you have shared search history, I can't see why he'd search on his phone.

PurpleDaisies · 06/12/2019 23:31

If he knows you have shared search history, I can't see why he'd search on his phone.

Yes, or he’d put private on or something.

Ilovethekitties · 06/12/2019 23:33

Does he know its shared? I think he has forgotten and he did search it.

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Minimaa · 06/12/2019 23:33

Why search for his friend tho? They all have phones? @Purpledaisies, she can only go to certain sites and can’t see our search history, I get your point.

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HarryElephante · 06/12/2019 23:33

Have you asked him?

Pinkbonbon · 06/12/2019 23:34

Yeah there's no way an eleven year old girl was searching for Viagra.

What was he doing in Dubai anyway? Odd place for a lads holiday.

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Minimaa · 06/12/2019 23:35

Formula 1

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Ilovethekitties · 06/12/2019 23:36

Have you asked him about it OP?