I’ve lost sight of what’s fair

[Penguinshame]

I am a SAHM, DH works long hours, and this Saturday is the Christmas trip out from the mums from school. I rarely go out, maybe once every 6 weeks or so, he goes out several nights a week once the kids are heading for bed.

He had forgotten about tomorrow, and I reminded him I’d be out, and that one of the kids has a party/event in the next town, so he would need to take him and entertain the other two while it goes on. The party is a ew of the kids from his class meeting up at a Winterval fayre and it’s the sort of thing our other two kids would love as well, so he could easily take them for a wander at the same time.

Apparently this is ridiculous, I am selfish for expecting him to do any of this and he works and I don’t, etc.

His first reaction was “well he can’t go to the party then” because it’s just too hard to manage all 3 whilst I “bugger off” and do my own thing.

He’s not being fair, is he?

I said “so I’m not allowed to go out on a weekend?” and he said I could go out but he only gets 2 days to relax and I’m spoiling it and I should have made different arrangements which don’t impact him.

Talk sense to me.

Tell him when you are divorced he will be doing all the stuff every second weekend

This. Say it every time he behaves like this now. Soon it'll be true.

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What a complete dick head. If you're biding you're time until February then Jeep in, keeping on and leave the fucker as soon as you can

“Have to do stuff “ like be a fucking parent!!!! I wouldn’t discuss it any further and I’d just go. Ring the birthday parent and tell them your husband is bringing your child. Then I’d be flouncing out the door before slamming it in his face!!!

Ah no I saw your update. I’d be divorcing him.

It maybe too late for this reading your recent posts but I'd suggest sitting him down and saying very calmly what you've said here and that the priority here was your son and this was a last straw for you and exactly why and that you are coming to the conclusion the only solution is divorce unless he changes his ways.