He's done it again, stayed out all night with not so much as a text or call....

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Just that really,
I know you'll tell me to LTB and I really should, but I suppose I'm weak and pathetic!
We've worked so hard to get our relationship back on track and it's been in a great place, except for a little hiccup a few weeks ago.
How can he do that! Risk our entire relationship by not contacting me or coming home last night when he knows how much it hurts and worries me 😢 We are supposed to be flying to Tenerife on Monday, I feel such a fool to allow this to happen again ... Sorry for the rant, just feel at breaking point! 💔

I would be furious. He clearly has no respect for you so I wouldn't be expecting any miraculous changes in a man like that. You can do so much better.

How can he do that! Risk our entire relationship by not contacting me or coming home last night when he knows how much it hurts and worries me
Because you let him. Sorry to be blunt. My ex used to do the same. I can also guarantee his timing has been well chosen, knowing you won't want to cancel the holiday!!!

I hope you have the tickets for the holiday. Get all of your locks changed, put his stuff in bin bags outside, then enjoy your holiday without the selfish twat

You can have a good think on holiday what you want. If he can’t change then you have to decide if you want him or not.

You're not weak and pathetic - very few people would be happy to throw away something they have worked hard at. But it seems your partner does not share the same opinion. So why do you want to waste time with someone that won't treat you by the same standards you treat them? That's soul destroying! Go and enjoy your holiday without worrying when your partner will next let you down...

Have you tried contacting his friends or family. Do you know where he was going. I would be contacting the police it's possible he could be in hospital been in an accident

If you're going on holiday next week I'm going to assume you have no children- go without him, or let him go, he can stay out all night as much as he wants while you pack and sort all your stuff out to separate.
This won't get any better, it's a basic putting himself before you thing.

He's saying that he doesn't care about you, he doesn't respect you and he doesn't love you. And you are saying that you're ok with that.

If you won't leave then you have to live like this. It's your choice. You can't really continue to blame someone else for your own decisions.

Ask a friend to join you on holiday and use this time to sort your head .. 🤷🏻‍♀️

What @hanab said makes sense! Or go alone, you'd have a better time!

He would do this all the time, we've broken up over his blatant disregard for me so many times. He'll go out drink for 12+ hours more without so much as a goodnight text or are you ok, just so I know he's ok. Time and time again we've been through this. We recently split up for 2 months, I was finally getting myself together, learning to live without him... then he came back begging, promising me the world and like an idiot I fell for it. Then yesterday he went out at 3pm, said he'd be back after a few pints and I didn't hear from him till 9am this morning while I was on the school run (I have two children from a previous relationship) I was up all night, I text asking if he was ok, I called him and had nothing back at all 😢.... He's paid for the holiday, but it's all in my name. I'll take my children.

I know what I have to do, I just find it so hard to be without him. When we are good. It's an amazing relationship. My children adore him, he's fantastic with them and loves them dearly. He'll do anything for us, until he goes out and I am out of sight, out of mind 😞

Ditch him. I'll come to Tenerife with you!

Where's he staying when he goes out all night?

He'll cause you too much trouble. How old is he? You must have been so frantic and worried

Ditch him permanently. Take the kids on the paid-for holiday.
DO NOT let him weasel his way back into your life. There is nothing worse than life with a binge-drinking alcoholic. You and your kids deserve better.

Agree with above. Change locks, stuff in bin bags on the doorstep, and go on holiday with the kids.

Block his number. Don't bother with him again.

Where is he when he’s out until 9am? You should get a STI check when you get back. He’s not in Wetherspoons at that time is he! Go on holiday on your own. Don’t contact him again and don’t respond to any of his messages. You’re too nice to be putting up with this crap!

Get an STI check. I'm sorry.

what do you expect people to do if you ignore the advice?

leave regardless of the holiday

You must know he's not going to change. My ex was the same, promising this and that and then would do it again. It wears you down and get downright boring after a while. I also agree with the other that he is highly likely to be cheating too.

My exh used to do this, he was also a serial cheat. The 2 often go hand in hand together. You can't trust him.

At what point are you going to say enough? He has no respect for you and sounds like he has an alcohol problem as well.

You need to live yourself more. This guy is a loser.

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