He's done it again, stayed out all night with not so much as a text or call....

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Just that really,
I know you'll tell me to LTB and I really should, but I suppose I'm weak and pathetic!
We've worked so hard to get our relationship back on track and it's been in a great place, except for a little hiccup a few weeks ago.
How can he do that! Risk our entire relationship by not contacting me or coming home last night when he knows how much it hurts and worries me 😢 We are supposed to be flying to Tenerife on Monday, I feel such a fool to allow this to happen again ... Sorry for the rant, just feel at breaking point! 💔

Well done OP. Perhaps he will now learn how to treat someone with respect.

“We’ve worked so hard” or you’ve worked so hard?? Because it sounds like he doesn’t respect you or give a shit about your relationship.

Good on you OP. What a prick. Interesting how he turned nasty as soon as you put your foot down.

Well done

No he should not be able to do much as you are the lead passenger - do you have the paperwork emailed?

It shouldnt matter most is done by passport now anyway

I don't think he will be able to cancel the holiday. Can you change passwords on everything so that he can't log in anyway?

Ive been in a relationship with a knob like this before. And I completely emphatically feel for you, as i know how much they mess with your head. They convince you they will improve even though deep down you know they cant physically do it, but yet you keep your hopes up constantly thinking ‘next time it will be better’ or ‘thats it, he knows its not acceptable this time’ and on and on it goes untill eventually you realised youve wasted your time on a loser who had no intention to change, they’re just a narcissistic person who knows the correct words to say to manipulate your decisions. You arent weak or pathetic. Most girls have been here. But i swear to you, the best thing you will ever do is walk away FOR GOOD. It feels so shit at the time, and probably will for a month or two. But get past the raw bit in the beginning and you soon start to see the lught and how much better off you are without him and his false promises. Be on your own and work on your own happiness. Seriously do not go back or fall for it again. He aint gunna improve im afraid. Theres much better things out there for ya, believe me x

We've worked so hard to get our relationship back on track

Have you both worked on it or just you?

he's not going to change, is he?

Did he pay for it?

His true character and contempt for you has been revealed He tried persuasion and guilt first then turned nasty. You didn't deserve to be subjected to nasty comments. Everyone has the right to end a relationship and he should respect that.

Wow. He’s cancelling the holiday? Or is he just preventing you from going (seeing how you are clearly the cause of the split, aye right) and is intending to take the kids?

I hope (if he’s good with them and can be trusted to look after them) that they dont miss out on their holiday and he is able to take them. Unless of course he can’t be trusted with them. He’s an arse for trying to spoil your holiday though. What an utter prick. However at least you don’t need to sleep on a bed next to him. Fecking arse that he is.

Oh OP.

You, not him, are doing all the work and you're not "back on track" you are living on the crumbs of good between the shit.

Am with someone similar but he does come home. Just out a lot til the early hours. I’ve had enough and am ending it.

Be strong x

He's demanding the money for the holiday now. I don't have that kind of money. The children and I will not be going tomorrow, I can't have him chasing me for money and telling everyone "I've stole from him" ... his words ... I can't wait for this all to blow over. I'm exhausted 😢

Did he pay for it?

If your u don’t go the money still won’t come back

You gotta get rid hun. Everyone on here has probably been through a break up and know how much it hurts. It’s the worst pain. But everyone on here also will know that it does heal in time. My ex was staying out all night and wouldn’t tell me where he had been. He was also a lying scumbag. And the knots in your stomach when that happens is dreadful. Think of your kids and your health. I never thought I would get over that. Now I’m with an amazing guy. You can have more if you want.

So much for loving your children that he is happy to cancel a holiday.

If you are desperate to go (are your children off school already?) then can anyone lend you the money or could you arrange to pay him back in stages?

Personally I think you might be best not to go and just accept that it was a consequence of the failing relationship.

You could say that you have acted honourably as you could have dumped him on the return from the holiday.

He's trying to hurt you. There will be others holidays. You have just given yourself a wonderful gift. Freedom!!!

Well done

It'll be hard but so worth it.

If you're the lead passenger, he can't cancel anything