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Would this put you off a guy ?

83 replies

Adorex · 05/12/2019 06:03

Someone I've been talking to. He sounds nice but comes across as a travel snob. He's one of those who 'found himself' travelling across Asia or whatever, which is fine.
But I don't think he understands that not everyone is able to do that. He's said, "you have people like me who want to see the world then those people who just go to Benidorm twice a year."
Just seems to see himself as superior because he's been 'off the beaten track' so to speak. Would this put you off someone or should I give it a chance ?

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Chlosavxox · 05/12/2019 16:55

There's absolutely nothing wrong with traveling being a big thing to some people - as it is to me. But there's a difference between someone who see's a lot of countries and enjoys it vs people who do it just to brag and act like they're better than others Smile

Allegorical · 05/12/2019 17:05

I was going to say he sounds like a 19 year old who has been on a gap year. How old is he?
If he is a over 25 as someone else said then he is a prize dick. Unless he was actually helping people then that kind of travel is no better than any other. I did it when i was younger. It is just middle class kids all staying together in the same hostels and partying.

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Adorex · 05/12/2019 17:43

He's 31 😂😂

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Preciosaundostres · 05/12/2019 17:44

Obviously lacks the intelligence of conversation and a typical bragart pompous twat !!! Whats benidorm got do with anything ? At least the people who go to the popular hotspot enjoy themselves and live in reality their is nothing more real than benidorm thats for sure asia or benidorm hes just proving who he is bore off !!! He would bore the arse off you !!! Zzzzzzzzz gawd i couldnt endure the text mesaaging with him never mind a date. You know what to do already or you wouldnt be asking us on here you sound fun hold out for someone more challenging and up beat you deserve that !!!! all the best love

Original poster
Adorex · 05/12/2019 17:45

@ballsdeep 'tales of Bali' 😂😂

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Whoops75 · 05/12/2019 17:50

I wouldn’t want to spend time with him, he’s a bore & racist.

Original poster
Adorex · 05/12/2019 17:52

'travel further. Do things that scare you.' (sourced from another travelgram)

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Groovinpeanut · 05/12/2019 17:55

He sounds like a bellend.
I would bother with him. I can just imagine you meeting up with him and him rocking up with all his travelling photos. Shock

user1479305498 · 05/12/2019 17:55

Interestingly it seems to be a very middle class kind of brag too, a bit of slumming it. Have done it, personally enjoyed a swanky hotel on a very lovely Greek island more . You know it takes all sorts OP and where I live, the street is full of40 something’s who no doubt in the past have built in plenty of travelling with the help of mummy and daddy’s cash.

Specialized101 · 05/12/2019 18:09

Drag him into a conversation about what cars you both drive,if hes a twat then he wont be able to help himself displaying the same qualities and judgements

Chlosavxox · 05/12/2019 20:10

I don't see the need to laugh at travelers putting quotes up and enjoying traveling? Fair enough this man has been a proper snob and you should cut him off, but not every traveler is bad - by laughing at them and bashing them for enjoying what they do and putting a few harmless quotes up is just as bad as him laughing at people who just go to Benidorm.

GiveHerHellFromUs · 06/12/2019 05:20

@Chlosavxox nobody's laughing at travellers for enjoying travelling - it's the insisting that we should all do it and they're somehow better than us having 'found' themselves in Indonesia.

We wouldn't mind them using quotes that actually have some substance. It's the inane 'insightful' bollocks that people take umbrage at.

Patroclus · 06/12/2019 06:29

the whole backpacking shit has become as generic as Benidorm.

Patroclus · 06/12/2019 06:31

And Ive noticed with 'traveling the world', 'the world' to them means getting pissed in thailand with other western europeans.

Brillopadtongue · 06/12/2019 06:33

'dangerous middle of nowhere area eating noodles and rice' is that not casual racism then if what he said about dog meat?

He sounds like an arrogant hipster twat.

yearinyearout · 06/12/2019 06:44

Have you tried telling him that there's nothing original about backpacking in Asia and millions of people do it? Could be he's just trying too hard to impress and would settle down. Or he might just be a bit of a dick.

toobusytothink · 06/12/2019 06:55

He’ll probably also be “spontaneous” and “a bit crazy” and will expect you to just go with the flow 🙄

toobusytothink · 06/12/2019 06:55

So yes! Would put me off ...

Countryescape · 06/12/2019 07:03

He sounds like an absolute toss pot!

thekaiserswife · 06/12/2019 07:08

Yes he sounds like a bit of a judgemental twat, but tbh OP so do you.

Perhaps reserve judgement on people until you've actually met them in person and don't slag them off on anonymous forums.

Zenithbear · 06/12/2019 07:10

He takes himself too seriously. Sounds like a superior immature knobhead. He would make me want to laugh at him.

eavers · 06/12/2019 07:20

He does sound like the tosser in the Inbetweeners 2 film.

Sparklybaublefest · 06/12/2019 07:22

agree with kaiserswife

dont slag him off until you have actually met him.
people write all sorts, they could be nice people.

going travelling meant a lot to him.

Sparklybaublefest · 06/12/2019 07:26

and erm my dh had been travelling when i met him, he was 32 when i met him, he did go on a bit about it, but he traveled for years and it meant a great deal to him.
dont write him off op.
next person you meet might never have left the comfort of home

joystir59 · 06/12/2019 07:26

Doesn't sound as if he learnt much from his travels then, in terms of it broadening his mind or making him more self aware. Utter knob.