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Would this put you off a guy ?

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Adorex · 05/12/2019 06:03

Someone I've been talking to. He sounds nice but comes across as a travel snob. He's one of those who 'found himself' travelling across Asia or whatever, which is fine.
But I don't think he understands that not everyone is able to do that. He's said, "you have people like me who want to see the world then those people who just go to Benidorm twice a year."
Just seems to see himself as superior because he's been 'off the beaten track' so to speak. Would this put you off someone or should I give it a chance ?

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Adorex · 05/12/2019 14:14

Yeah, I think I should. I 'shut him down' in my reply in a nice enough way, saying that Benidorm was great and that not everyone has the money/desire to go to Asia, Australia etc.
I do dislike this travel superiority, i've also seen posts about 'the universe is a beautiful place' 'peace and love' 'you cannot know who you truly are until you travel' etc. 🙄

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dontalltalkatonce · 05/12/2019 14:17

'you cannot know who you truly are until you travel' etc. 🙄

Oh, that would be it for me. Sneering bullshit. A lot of people really don't have the money to travel, or can't or don't want to know and they're perfectly at peace and happy with who they are. I had a friend like this. She had been quite poor but then married a wealthy man and banged on and on about travel and how much it changed her and I finally just cut her off.

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Adorex · 05/12/2019 14:18

@MissDew yes, that's maybe a good idea.
Anyone who sneers or looks down on me or my family though will be gone in an instant 😁

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PositiveVibez · 05/12/2019 14:24

Sounds like a cockend! He wouldn't be getting a second date from me.

Zzzz19 · 05/12/2019 14:36

As a single bloke, who has done OLD, I always used to look at the competition and would see these toned fellas with pictures of the Himalayas in the background and think I had no chance. I wonder if they do well or not?

TuttiCutie · 05/12/2019 15:06

He sounds like a gobshite.

I have a family member a bit like this, she's travelled (i.e. been on holiday to Thailand for a fortnight and spent a few days in Iceland) and now she's all wild swimming, 'wild camping' in her VW campervan with gas/heating/etcGrin... turned her Instagram into a mini-blog where all her followers regularly suffer through her passive aggressive posts about how she's so superior because she spends her weekends in the great outdoors, not like us twats that have shopping, cleaning, cooking, children, to do.

She posted last week that instead of Black Friday she was doing Green Friday with a mini lecture thrown in for anyone that dared to buy anything that day.

God those people are fucking boring.

Bumfuzzled · 05/12/2019 15:08

Yeah he sounds like a bit of a knob.

MissDew · 05/12/2019 15:22

toned fellas with pictures of the Himalayas in the background and think I had no chance. I wonder if they do well or not?

Would probably have put on a shed load of weight since the photo was taken. Be in massive debt because of their travelling and not working.

That photo would maybe have got them their first and only date. They pretty much would not have had much conversation once they had stopped going on about their travel and/or that photo.

crappyday2018 · 05/12/2019 15:34

He sounds like a prat. I've travelled pretty much round the world but when dating I never mentioned it in my profile and only ever talked about it if I was asked. I used to find a lot of men who were 'well travelled/travel snobs' didn't actually like the fact I was also well travelled. Don't think they liked the competition or the fact they couldn't impress me.
If that is all he has in his life then he's boring.

ballsdeep · 05/12/2019 15:36

Erg I bet he'd rock up with a yoga mat and tales of bali spouting self righteous crap.
It would definitely put me off.

dontgobaconmyheart · 05/12/2019 15:39

Oh I'd just bin him off OP, how can you bear listening to such shit Confused. Utterly bizarre that a person can travel extensively and it taught them nothing about open mindedness, perspective or philanthropy. I'm afraid it doesn't speak well of his real level of intellect, ultimately, which sadly is usually the case for those that think they know it all. The food comment just makes him sound like a prick.

You sound as though you can do better OP, really. Why put yourself through it.

dontalltalkatonce · 05/12/2019 15:44

Just send him some guff about how you don't think there's a connection so thanks but no thanks and spare yourself the boredom.

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 05/12/2019 15:47

Doesn't sound like you're very compatible to be honest. But maybe go for the drink with low expectations? Or just don't bother.

Jux · 05/12/2019 15:58

I bet he votes Tory

Pinkbonbon · 05/12/2019 15:59

I wouldn't see him again. He'll take that as a sign that you are OK with how he behaved last time. Most people don't talk about being superior to others on a first friggin date. Dude clearly has some entitlement issues.

So even if you think you are going along just to show him the error if his ways, he'll just see you as a crazy bitch because you dared call him out on it. And who are you to tell him he isn't sooooo much better than everyone else xD

FloraGreysteel · 05/12/2019 16:04

Sounds like a twat. Walk away!

whiskersonkittenss · 05/12/2019 16:05

Does he have dreads and wear Thailand trousers?
I'm imagining him to be like the tosser from the inbetweeners movie Grin

GiveHerHellFromUs · 05/12/2019 16:07

I bet he votes Tory

I bet all those miles on an aeroplane really made him feel at one with the world. Bet he votes Green.

1forAll74 · 05/12/2019 16:10

Yes, some people always state Benidorm as some lowly holiday destination,when they have travelled more extensively. I don't much like travel bores, but they are plentiful,and annoying, and usually,they don't care to listen to where other people have been to.

Shannith · 05/12/2019 16:17

As him what bits of himself he "found" while travelling.

If he claims feeling for his fellow humans, suggest he pop back and study irony this time.

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Adorex · 05/12/2019 16:20

Honestly, i'd a million times over rather be in a nice hotel by the pool in Benidorm than some sort of party hostel in a dangerous middle of nowhere area eating noodles and rice, but I guess real travellers see the 2nd option as more character building 😁

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Ragwort · 05/12/2019 16:22

Agree, can’t stand travel bores. I have a friend who goes on and on about travelling all the time, yes she has seen hundreds of places but doesn’t seem to get any pleasures from the simple things in life .. she spends hours organising her annual leave to maximise the time she can spend on holidays and I’ve no idea what she would do if she needed a random day off to get the boiler fixed Grin.

OvalCanvas · 05/12/2019 16:26

He does indeed sound like a bore.

Most importantly though , it sounds like the two of you have very little common ground. I'd certainly not bother with that drink op.

Thingsdogetbetter · 05/12/2019 16:29

Under 25 fine, he'll learn. Over 25 and it makes him a prat.

Had someone do this to me at a party once. Banged on and on about his spiritual experiences during his whole WEEK in an Asian country. Told me i really should go, with deep meaningful bollox about eastern philosophy etc. Let him babble on and then told him I'd lived there for four YEARS. His face was worth the wasted time listening to his shite. Lol. I threw in the feminist lecture on the oppression of women and westerners' creation of the prolific sex industry there just to be a cow!!

Chlosavxox · 05/12/2019 16:50

He's being a snob. Although going to loads of different countries + experiencing different cultures is amazing, but traveling isn't for everyone so nothing wrong with someone that just wants a holiday to Benidorm instead 🤷🏼‍♀️

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