What makes some older women think their adult sons are GOD

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I've seen it a few times from some older women. They think their adult sons are god and can do no wrong and their adult sons are corrupted by their female partners. Then they hate their sons partner with a passion.

I've seen this a few times. In one case one mothers son was a drug addict and really a piece of scum.

Even in my own mother I see it. She has this mentality where she pitys my brothers in particular the youngest one for being male.

Last week mail came for him and I saw her run to get her glasses to investigate the envelope. Another time he opened his mail, left the room and she read his mail. I think it's so wrong. He has no privacy. I don't know if I should tell him of I see her again reading his mail.

I have seen it with young Mothers too

I don't think my adult son is god infact he tells me I am very critical of him. I complain about him wearing a vest and shorts around the house all the time because he works out at the local gym and then doesn't change or shower. I said how would you feel if I wore shorts and a t shirt all the time even in the middle of winter? His response was you don't work out like me.

I think all my children are perfect- isn’t that quite usual?

I'm so glad that my adult son has decided not to enter into any relationships. He doesn't want to burden anyone with the worry of him dying. He has a terminal illness.

I don't think he's God, I think he can use his illness to be lazy, and he needs to look after himself more.

Is opening someone’s post treating them like a deity?

Sorry to read about your son Christmaspie. He's entitled to have someone wait on him and spoil him.

I didn't write all women or mothers are like this Jolie. I said some.

My mother is racing around the city today shopping for my brother buying him Christmas gifts that will be from him because he was too much of a drunk and hungover or coming down from drugs to go shopping himself.

Two questions here
One about god like sons AIBU
other being opening someone else’s mail ISBU 😆

Yep, my mum was EXACTLY like this. From what she said her mother (my gran) was also like this.

What I always find quite odd is that the mothers put their sons on a pedestal, and the daughters lower down but as soon as the sons went off to uni they never bothered with the mothers. I used to call my mum several times a week. My brother would email twice a year and she would act like she'd received a telegram from the fucking queen

She didn't open his mail. She read it though once he opened it and left the room.

I said how would you feel if I wore shorts and a t shirt all the time even in the middle of winter?

Why would he care what you wore?

Also, why do you care if he wears shorts and a vest? He's an adult...I'm sure if he feels cold, he'll manage to put a jumper on.

Blimey

My mother is exactly like this!!
Pees me off no end.

Lyingwanker,

Similar situation here. My brother is unemployed and he goes out most weekends and then sleeps for the majority of the week especially during the day and evening and then he gets up at nighttime. He cooks for himself and won't/clean up after himself. Leaves the dirty pot/pan on the cooker. Dirty plate on the table.

It can also be the other way round. My MIL thinks my SIL is the second coming, and my DH is a mere mortal in comparison. However she would still open his mail if she could, but that is because she is a nosey old bag 😁

@formerbabe

He also wears a woolen hat with his shorts and vest which looks odd if we have visitors. I dunno perhaps you wear shorts all year round and don't mind. He did actually ask me to turn the heating up last night and said why don't put jumper on then you won't feel so cold. He is 27 btw

and I said why don't you put a jumper on

My mother is constantly making excuses for my feckless brother who despite being 50+ still can't manage his money and is lazy (he told me that) and suffering from untreated health problems due to his weight. DM seems to think lazy is an untreatable medical condition. I can't bear to watch the debacle replay itself time after time. I just roll my eyes now and change the subject. My sister and I are expected to do all the 'care' responsibilities for DM (which we don't mind - but DM seems to think he pulls his weight too)

Definitely, some women think their sons can do no wrong and tell them they are amazing at everything, hate their sons partners etc, I think they are sexist women. They tend to not do the same for their daughters.

PhilomenaChristmasPie I found that quite sad to read, you think he uses his terminal illness to be lazy and glad that he hasn't been in a relationship so he's not a burden? I'd be a bit down and not very active either if I was so young and has a terminal illness, I think.

I have always made my son's girlfriends feel very welcome. He is single at the moment and I wish some woman would come along and then he would leave home and they will get a flat or a house together. I don't think that will happen for a while because he is too comfy here with me doing his laundry and cooking ... worst luck.

My son is a god, and I tell him that every day.

he is too comfy here with me doing his laundry and cooking

Stop doing it. Seriously.

Both my dd and ds are gods and goddesses.

I would never read their mail. I look forward to ds finding a steady girlfriend, so she can be part of our family, and l can make friends with her.

So it would seem that as l am older l am not allowed to think my dc are wonderful. And most of the times they are

Must be something only ‘older mothers’ have

Ha ha mil told me how lucky my (main breadwinning/ still making homemade cakes/ doing all life admin etc) SIL was for having an amazing husband who cooked a curry once a week on his mid week day off. I might of pointed out that given she worked as many hours and did 6 suppers of the week, remembered kids lunches, did all shopping, remembered birthdays, organised parties etc etc etc her husband was bloody lucky and one day a week didn’t make him an amazing husband 🤣 she was a little taken aback. She literally has no concept that a man can make a cup of tea all by himself and if he does it’s something worthy of a comment. Drives me bonkers. She doesn’t make comments so often as I think my answers challenge her view too much.

jolie there are bigger hills to die on than wearing shorts in winter. My DH wore shorts year round for work (was a postman) - his legs, if he wants to freeze it's his business. DS does the same - in fact he rarely wears anything but boxers round the house. He puts clothes on if we have visitors, but they are often shorts. He also wears shorts to work year-round. I'm a bit confused as to why you object to this?

It's an (any age) mother thing. Nothing to do with age. Some sons (any age) can just do no wrong.