Dating someone 17 years younger.. I can probably guess the answers but just wondering if it would ever work

[monsin]

He's lovely , I'm young at heart .. is it very wrong ???

Not at all. Go for it.

Unless he’s under 16, otherwise it’s fine.

Unless you are age 32 or something. That would be sick.

Really ? I feel so weird about it . We've known each other a year .
Any stories out there like this would be gratefully received xx

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48 he's 31

You’re fine. Crack on!

My husband is 16 years younger than me. We've been together nearly 20 years. He is old for his years, I have a young outlook for mine. We meet in the middle! It was more noticeable when we first got together, now I honestly don't think of our age gap at all. Go for it and don't worry about what others think.

He reckons he never wants kids which was obviously my main issue x

Oh wow @Razzlefrazzle that's a nice thing to hear xx

If it helps, my husband is 18 years older than me. We've been together 11 years and have a strong relationship. I'd say go for it xx

I've had an age gap relationship and while it had to end at some point, I never regretted it. Wish you all the best.

My cousins wife is about 16 years older, they have been together 14 years and recently got married. They’re very happy.

My husband did want kids so I've had dc far older than I would have ideally chosen. That said, they keep me young too and I wouldn't change a thing now

I met my DP when I was 29 and she was 52. 10 years on and we're still very happy. Age is just a number - go for it.

@SapphosRock does she have any issues about how she looks over the years compared to younger women ? x

@monsin she does often say she feels lucky I'm still attracted to her now she's in her 60s and I'm still in my 30s. Of course I am, I think she forgets I'm getting older as well it's not like the age gap is widening!

Sometimes your soulmate happens to have been born in a different generation...

@SapphosRock that gives me so much hope , I'm glad you're happy x

I do triathlon with an amazing 80 year old. She has been married to her toyboy...15 years younger than her...for decades

I was 22 years younger than my lovely DH. We had 20 amazing years together and never had any issues with the age gap.

Yep, go for it. I did. I didn't last forever but it lasted long enough. Biggest pitfalls were cultural references.....

Him taking the piss out of which was 'my' Doctor Who and knowing he was out by at least two. Same with Blue Peter presenters - John Noakes meant nothing to him. Random film and song references - he spent a weekend watching 80s Breakfast Club type films once just for my benefit (why did I feckin get rid of him? Idiot)

Listening to him talk about his mother going through the menopause while I was silently wondering if I was going through the menopause. (this is why!)

If the chemistry's there, go for it! You don't click with someone because of their age! Honestly OP, the only way you'll find out is to spend time with your lovely man. Why should age matter?

As long as it’s legal there’s no issue with age gap! I was 19 when I met DH who was 34. I’m now 38 and he’s 53 and we are very happy. Had ups and downs like anyone but we work it through. I wouldn’t change a thing.

There are lots of reasons to bin off a fledgling relationship. This isn’t one of them.

My mild concern - perhaps he’s currently promising that children won’t be an issue slightly naively, because he’s so keen on you and is desperate to reassure you. But that’s just me being pessimistic! He may genuinely want to be child-free like some men and women I know.

So many relationships have a life span of 18 months. Just enjoy it while it lasts. You might well be the one to want to end it.

“Reckons” suggests to me he isn’t entirely sure if he wants kids. He isn’t saying “for sure”.

I know everyone’s being rather optimistic but it 99% won’t work out but there’s always a chance it will.