Hi
NC for this. My partner just slapped me in the face. We had argument about washing (how I manage to always put things away and he leaves bits all over the place) - result was him slapping me in my face. My cheek is still stinging 15 mins later.
Background: been together 12 years. Have 2 yr old DC. Not married, no family nearby (and no real caring family). His family is more hands on. House mortgaged in both our name. About 4 years ago we had relationship issues, in that time we argued a lot. He hit me round the back (after drinking and he denies it ever happened), shouted a lot and grabbed me round the neck. I know how it looks in hindsight, but I really thought we’d moved past that. We’ve had arguments that in retrospect have been terrible, but until today I hadn’t thought of them.
We just had an argument (as above) and he slapped me in the face. He’s not done that before. He’s now claiming that I’ve hit him ‘lots of times in the past’. I haven’t. I threw water in his face once (after he got up in my face on one occasion).
I literally don’t know what to do. I can’t leave - DS2 is in bed asleep. I have nowhere to go. I have very close deadlines at work and work compressed hours tomorrow. ‘D’P’s mum stays with us weds night/ Thursday day for childcare. I tried calling women’s aid for advice and they are closed. I don’t know what to do.
Please give me some advice. I’m devastated that it’s come to this, but I can’t continue in this relationship.