Just wondering if you’d be able to forgive dh if he’d done the following, though a long time ago, I’ve never been able to let go of what he’s done, each thing was only ever once and after he was always sorry:
Called me a cunt
Told me to fuck off
Told me to shut my fucking face
Accused me of cheating once (no I didn’t, far from it)
Stropping when I’ve gone away to visit fam (several times)
Made me move house when I didn’t want to
Waited ages before finally agreeing to take me to hospital (I had a health condition in mild pain and anxious - he couldn’t be bothered to stop watching footy)
Told me I’m frigid because I didn’t do it every time he wanted to
Told me there’s something mentally wrong with me
I used to be shocked by his occasional outbursty comments, then I started to think who the fuck do you think you are, so started to tell him to fuck off every time he was EA. This led to some huge rows, I never backed down though.
He says he loves me a lot, his past behaviours have killed my loving feelings about him, he does not behave like this now, and puts it down to being younger, immature and under stress. Granted he has changed but I can’t seem to shake the resentment at being treated badly, AIBU given he’s sorry and has changed?
In case someone asks...we have 3 DC all in primary school, own house together, both work professional jobs, he earns more, I have no pension, he is introverted with hardly any friends, all our friends are mine, I am very sociable.