- your sex life with dp of 3 years was irregular (once a month) because he claims to have low libido.
- he takes viagra before we sleep together.
- but you suspect he might be wanking while I'm not around.
- and he has a niche fetish that isn't awful but is a bit odd.
I bought the low libido thing for a long time as I'm 36 and he's 51 so thought he was maybe just going off the boil a bit. I'm not highly sexed myself but once a fortnight would be my preference. It's not the lack of frequency that bothers me but more the possibility that he actually struggles to have a sexual relationship with me because his kink is what truly does it for him :( that hurts.
Our relationship is otherwise great and I love him and don't want to leave over this but I do find it upsetting. I've asked him the question before but he's never going to admit to finding me less alluring than his kink is he? Before anyone suggests porn addiction I don't think it's 'addiction' as such - more just preference. Really don't know how to feel....