Would you go on another date with him ?

[Phoenixxx]

Well the first date hasn't actually happened yet. We were meant to meet tonight, we arranged it on the app yesterday morning, confirmed the time and place and then i gave him my number for whatsapp.
He texted right away, hey it's Jack, and I didn't reply anything.
I get to the date today and 15 minutes later he hasn't showed up. I text asking where he is and he says "Oh I didn't hear from you today so I made other plans."
He said because I didn't text him today or say I was on my way he assumed I had ghosted him ?
I said no we had arranged it all yesterday and confirmed it and didnt have anything else to add.
Then I said to him that if he wasn't sure, why didn't he just text me to check it was still on rather than assuming it wasn't?
He had just put hey it's me, it's not like I had ignored his messages.
Anyway I guess I should have double confirmed today, I will know for next time.
He said hes really sorry and feels horrible and wants to take me out next weekend, would you go ?

It's totally all on you, why would you not message him back??? He probably though you weren't interested or gave him a wrong number

Give him another go - what have you got to lose? But next time reply.

I guess I should have done yeah, just that we were meeting the next day, we had confirmed everything and I didnt really have anything to say so I just saved his number.

I would have assumed I’d been ghosted , you should have acknowledged his text.

I think you acted quite strangely not even acknowledging his text and I wouldn't have turned up either.

Give it another chance.

Yeah I should have done, just that he sent it at the same time as we were talking on the app, I should have sent something to confirm I got it.

Yes, give it another chance OP. This sounds like a genuine mis-communication.

You’re lucky HE’S giving you another chance TBH. The way you behaved was really odd.

I wouldn't say it's really odd, I gave him my number, he text me his and I saved it. Stranger things have happened, it was a misunderstanding

Totally you, I wouldn’t be heading out on a date if I hadn’t spoken to someone for a day plus especially if they ignored the first phone interaction. I’d be worried about ghosting or someone not being serious. Apologise and rearrange, communicating on the day of date :-)

I do feel bad now, but I think it was on both of us.

If he had texted me 'hey, still on ?' this could have been saved, but I should have too.

I should have acknowledged the number, just didn't want to get into another text conversation when we were meeting the next day and have nothing to say, but I will be sure to reconfirm next time.

Another one thinking he was right not to turn up.

Good luck on your date.

To be honest I’ve had countless dates where the guy just hasn’t messaged on the day, one even made a very elaborate first date plan, text me all morning and then disappeared a few hours before so I’d think you’d gone off the idea and wouldn’t have shown up either.

That's fair enough. In hindsight I should have texted him today, I will make sure I do next time.

I think it was on the both of us it really wasn't

It was. If he wasnt sure it was still on, he could have just asked me.

This was definitely on you OP. Why on earth didn't you acknowledge his text? All you had to reply was "see you tomorrow". How was he supposed to know you'd even given him a genuine number if you never replied? No wonder he didn't turn up. Everyone is saying the same thing you're still not willing to take responsibility.

You sound a bit too wrapped in yourself and not very thoughtful of others. You're lucky he's giving you a second chance, I certainly wouldn't. I think he should run like hell.

You didn't reply to his message!!! He did nothing wrong OP, if you'd replied that would probably have been his next question

Shoulda replied to him.

I think you definitely should have immediately confirmed you’d got his message.

However, I’d have expected someone keen to have text again today just to say ‘hey, did you get my text? Looking forward to seeing you tonight’ or something. So I wouldn’t be over looking forward to the date.

No I agree it wasn't on him. I wouldn't have turned up either if someone didn't acknowledge, he shouldn't have had to follow it up.

On you OP, you should have acknowledged his text even if just very briefly then he’d know he had the right number.
One more date won’t take up too much time to see if there’s anything there.

He texted me the number literally immediately after we made the plans so there was no need to ask if it was still on.
Thanks for saying i'm thoughtless and wrapped up in myself, since clearly you know me, I have said I felt bad and should have replied but I didn't think there was anything to reply to, because we were talking on the app at the same time. But I think he could also have asked if it's still on, anyway Ive learned my lesson and will make sure I reply to something like that next time.