Would you go on another date with him ?

[Phoenixxx]

Well the first date hasn't actually happened yet. We were meant to meet tonight, we arranged it on the app yesterday morning, confirmed the time and place and then i gave him my number for whatsapp.
He texted right away, hey it's Jack, and I didn't reply anything.
I get to the date today and 15 minutes later he hasn't showed up. I text asking where he is and he says "Oh I didn't hear from you today so I made other plans."
He said because I didn't text him today or say I was on my way he assumed I had ghosted him ?
I said no we had arranged it all yesterday and confirmed it and didnt have anything else to add.
Then I said to him that if he wasn't sure, why didn't he just text me to check it was still on rather than assuming it wasn't?
He had just put hey it's me, it's not like I had ignored his messages.
Anyway I guess I should have double confirmed today, I will know for next time.
He said hes really sorry and feels horrible and wants to take me out next weekend, would you go ?

Candy she didn't WhatsApp him though. She gave him her number, he sent her a message on WhatsApp, and she didn't reply to it.

Why on earth not reply?!

That’s just bloody rude!

You ask everyone’s opinions, then tell they are wrong. Good luck jack

@Phoenixxx I’ve been wondering how the date went? If you don’t mind, obviously! Hope it went well

I'd never turn up to a date that wasn't confirmed. And I wouldn't receive a phone number and not acknowledge it.

No no. It was definitely just on you. You could have just replied to his initial text. I would have thought I was ghosted if the person didn't reply to the original text.

No harm done now. Hes giving you another chance. Just dont be strange next time.

'He had just put hey it's me, it's not like I had ignored his messages.'

Well, yeah, you did if you didn't reply.

Seems like a misunderstanding, but you could know in future that if someone msgs to give you their number or whatever, you go 'thanks. see you tomorrow' or summat. Have you ever thought you might have ASD at all? Genuine question. This is fairly basic social interaction. I have autistic traits but I'm an extrovert, so tend to say the wrong thing, rather than not replying when most people would.

I'd just chalk it up to experience, apologize, and give it another go.

Unlike most pps I do think it's on both. He shouldn't have just not turn up without himself not confirming.

The thing is "he made other plans". When? Between yesterday and today and without double checking with you? How far was he?

Why the next weekend only?
I'd try to rearrange it for sooner, just to get it out of the system.

Damn. Just noticed the dates.
How did it go?

No big deal! You thought you'd made firm arrangements. He wasn't sure because he didn't get a message back. A little misunderstanding and noone needs to get hung, drawn or quartered. Give it another go!

I think that’s more on you OP - sorry

Christ. I'm so glad I gave up dating if people are this needy these days. You made firm plans, which you had confirmed via one medium, then because you didn't reply to a random "hi" message via a different medium, he assumed it was all off and didn't bother turning up? Didn't ask "Are you still on for tonight?", just went straight to "Oh, she didn't say hi back, she must have ghosted me"? I don't know how all these people saying it was all your fault would have coped pre-mobiles, when you just made plans to meet someone and you weren't obliged to be in constant contact with the other person right up until the date in order for the commitment to still stand.

OP, it wasn't your fault, it was just a bizarre miscommunication. Did you manage to see him again in the end or did you give it up as a bad job?

Ageee with the others, very weird you didn't respond to him. He behaved as most people would, which is to assume you ghosted him. Did you apologise?