Do you buy each other Xmas presents?

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Dh and I don't. Our reasoning being we share a bank account so if we both want something, we just buy it ourselves iykwim. Obvs we buy for the kids and our parents but for each other at Xmas, nope.

I was talking to some colleagues and came away from the conversation feeling were total oddities, that our relationship is frazzled.

Yes we do

Yeah nothing massive though maybe some new pjs and a dressing gown each

Not as such, we tend to club together and buy something for us both or something for the house (new bed, new TV etc). Last year we agreed to treat ourselves to a year of getting a cleaner.

Yes. Try to get each other a surprise.
Not massive amounts of cash though.

It's difficult as we're the same, joint finances. If we want something, we buy it as we don't have expensive hobbies. We tend to do more jokey presents, like cringiest valentine's present for a fiver. I usually make DH a little hamper of his favourite foods too. For years we didn't bother but it just felt a bit sad.

We do. We share accounts too but it's still nice knowing that the other person thought about something the other would like and got it for them. Yeah we do that during the year too, but I just like Christmas too.

No, being honest we don’t have the money at the moment so would prefer to get DD lovely presents instead.

I am single currently, but when I was with my exP we did, but I hated having to find something, not expensive but felt like buying something for the sake of it.

If I ever have a new partner , I would love to agree from the outset that we don’t buy each other Xmas, birthday or Valentine gifts. That’ll be bliss for me.

We didn't for the first 10 years as like others have said, we share money so.. Then we realised we wanted to have a surprise to open from each other so we have a budget of £30 each and get 3 presents for each other. It's been brilliant the last few years as he really knows me and vice versa. It doesn't have to be expensive.

Yes - I'd be really sad if my partner didn't buy me a gift at Christmas!! (not least because he is the only person who does!)

Yes! On a strict budget this year as I’m on maternity leave but we always give gifts for Christmas, birthdays etc. Secondhand books, nice food bits, tickets for things, we both like jewellery. Doesn’t have to be fancy but always thoughtful.

We don't. My husband is rubbish at buying presents anyway (he'd be rushing out on Christmas morning if the shops were open as he would have forgotten) and as I have to buy for all 3 kids plus his family and mine, it was easier just to agree not to. Makes no difference to him but lessens my stress slightly as I have to think about absolutely everything else. Plus I'd rather spend it on the kids which is what Christmas is all about - in my eyes anyway. We save our gifts for birthdays.

Yeah we do

We haven't the last few years for the same reason, and because there's never anything we actually want or need, so we just end up buying each other generic crap that ends up gathering dust.

No. There s nothing we want or need and we hate shopping. The decision has never been difficult : ) . We are the same with birthdays. We do randomly buy each other stuff but at random

Yes we do, we set a £ limit and we don't use the shared account for it so it stays a suprise. Thought we do give each other a few idea of what we'd like :)

We do, it's nice to do something with love for the other even when its been very small/second hand things. Also it would just be us watching ds unwrapping presents otherwise which would feel a bit odd

Not a present as such but we use the money we would have spent on a present and book a city break over new years

We do, £50 limit. We have shared finances but separate accounts for our own spending. We both tend to go a bit overboard on birthdays as well. I love spotting things my dp would like so I’d be really sad not to do it.

Yes, we share finances too, but rarely spend money on ourselves so it’s nice to buy something we know the other will love.

No, I hate getting stuff for the sake of it as does he. If there's something we want we just get it. I do like having something to open though, especially if it's not a surprise and something I actually want so I do get a few things for myself and wrap them up "from DH". He couldn't care less about receiving gifts. I occasionally will get him something I know he needs / wants but often don't.

I’m divorcing at the moment but we always bought gifts. Unless there’s a budgetary issue surely it’s not about the money and having joint accounts but about treating someone you love by thinking about what they’d love

Wrapping your own Christmas presents is just hugely depressing surely....

Yes we do. Several gifts each some we want and a few well chosen surprises. There is only the two of us on Christmas day this year so it makes it special. Otherwise it would be just another day. I love buying lovely treats for dp.

No, we put the money towards a lovely weekend away in January