Do you buy each other Xmas presents?

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Dh and I don't. Our reasoning being we share a bank account so if we both want something, we just buy it ourselves iykwim. Obvs we buy for the kids and our parents but for each other at Xmas, nope.

I was talking to some colleagues and came away from the conversation feeling were total oddities, that our relationship is frazzled.

Yes, we do. We take the DC along, they love helping to choose the presents. I usually end up getting DH 3 things, one from each child and one from me.

I like getting little luxuries that I wouldn't actually buy for myself - I'd never buy myself a box of chocolates for example, I'd just get myself a chocolate bar.

Also it's nice for the children to have the fun of giving presents as well as opening them - my kids would be very taken aback if everyone in the room didn't have something under the tree.

Yes we do and have done for the almost 40 years we have been married.

We used to spend a lot on each other but now spend less although we don't actually have a set amount.

We have a joint account but DH rarely looks at statements and we both use cash where possible to buy presents

Yes we do, we are in a similar position to the OP so we take an agreed amount of cash each out of the joint account and spend just that. It is a sort of Secret Santa

No, we haven't done in 10+ years (and we've only been married and shared a bank account for one year).

In the early days, neither of us had much money so we'd agree to save it and spend it on luxury Christmas food and booze instead.

Even though we don't need to do that anymore, we've just never bothered! We've never so much as got each other a novelty item! 😆

Usually we do as there’s only 3 of us, so if we didn’t, it would just be DS opening presents and I think it’s good to see that it’s not all about him! It’s hard though as, like others, we share finances and buy what we want when we want it, especially DH! We won’t this year though as we’re going to Australia so that’s our present and we won’t have space in the suitcases to cart stuff there and back except for DS’s.