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Sexting or whatever it might be called

6 replies

Fuzzyhead88 · 11/11/2019 11:39

My partner has a thing about talking time random people on line, he reckons he does it just because 'its him and he finds it funny'.
A few years ago he set up a fake account, a bit like cat fishing, and was talking to a few people, but there's was one woman in particular. She sent him naked photos (he asked for them) and it seems they spoke for a while. I saw the messages and he said he was just messing about! He deleted the messages before I could read all of them saying 'id just keep going over it'
That was the end of that. Then I found a naked photo of him on his phone and get the feeling he sent this somewhere on a chat site, he has denied this though.
He is now at again, he received a random friend request on Facebook which he told me about and showed me a message that was somewhat flirty from the other person. However, he has replied asking if they would sort him out blah blah blah, to which he says it is just harmless fun and he is taking the piss.
Not sharing the humour to be honest! What do people think. Is it just like a bit of porn and harmless or is it weird?

OP posts:
Doggybiccys · 11/11/2019 11:43

It’s not something I’d accept but I do believe there are people out there who think “online “ isn’t real therefore doesn’t count. It’s up to you who you chose to invest in - set your boundaries and stick to them.

hellsbellsmelons · 11/11/2019 11:48

That was the end of that
Well that should have been the end of it for you.
Why wasn't it?
Why isn't it now?
Why are you accepting this kind of behaviour?
How would he feel if you were sending naked pics and messaging random guys on the internet?
You know this isn't right.
You KNOW you deserve far better.
Raise your bar and kick him to the curb and find a man who doesn't do this kind of shit.
He isn't even sorry about it.
He isn't promising to stop.
So end it already!

BumbleBeee69 · 11/11/2019 11:51

everything hellsbellsmelons said....

find your self respect OP, and kick this cretin out...

MarianaMoatedGrange · 11/11/2019 11:53

He isn't your 'partner'. A real partner wouldn't do this. He seems to think women are put on earth purely to titilate him. Is this sleazebag all you think you deserve?

lifegoes · 11/11/2019 12:23

This is cheating, it's not a bit of fun of banter.

Is he telling these women hes in a relationship- no
Will they have asked - 80% will have
How he starting to talk to them?
Why is it ok to catfish other women?
How many women?
Is he meeting them?
Why a fake account?

This is absolutely disgusting behaviour. Not just for what he is doing to you, but what he's doing to other women and YOU are letting him it's think it's ok.

pickletickled · 11/11/2019 12:24

Urgh! I couldn't be with someone like this.
Using porn is different imo but this is interactive. He's not only pissing all over your love and trust, he's also massively disrespecting you.
He wants a seedy online sex life to run alongside your 'relationship' with no consequence nor interruption from you.
Don't go along with that OP, you're worth way more. Get rid and find a decent man and leave this one wanking online on his own.

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