My husband has treated me like a piece of crap for a long time. Not violent, but I am continually called a cnt, bitch, idiot etc etc, and shouted at for the smallest thing. Not a day goes by when he doesn't shout at me for something.
It's got to the point where we sleep in separate rooms and I only want to see him when I have to. Sex is rare and feels we are just using each other because we are there rather than affection for each other. He is always on the computer so he's usually out of my way. The other day I said to him I can't see this marriage lasting, I want to have a baby at some point and I can't see that happening with him. He went into a rage saying he will only have a baby if I promise to do all the work to look after it etc etc. Ridiculous.
I made the mistake of going to town with him yesterday, and went to buy some bottled hair dye. He started shouting about the colour I chose - saying I would look a state, and I should have my hair the colour he likes. He then said 'this is why I won't have a baby with you' loudly in the shop. Just humiliating for me.
I feel alone, I can't tell my family and I don't have any close friends to confide in. We are stuck in a 5 year mortgage so I don't think we can sell and move, plus he does not want the marriage to end for mainly financial reasons. It feels hopeless to me, but I feel this is the only place I can anonymously get it out there. Thanks for reading 