End of Friendship-'Promiscuous Child'

[Lifeisabeach09]

I met a friend (male) today for a beer. I've known this guy several years (friend and neighbour) and he knows my DD (10). He has a DD (18) also. Just a bit of background: this man is 50, single, unemployed, sees women as objects a bit, online dater on multiple sites but not a player as such. We have a history of intimacy years ago. Never serious and without my DD's knowledge.
We were chatting today about our past (multiple) relationships and he comes out with that I must have started at 13. i asked him why he would think that.
He said essentially "I've met your daughter" and sees how she is playing with the boys in our building's garden. I, again, asked him what he meant by that and he says my then 8 year old DD "struts and shakes her bottom" and he "sees how she dresses" around the boys and is obviously en route to being "promiscuous" (his word). I got angry and a massive row ensued.
That an adult could see a child acting sexual pisses me off and astounds me. I'm quite upset--for his negative points, I valued his friendship.
Advice and thoughts please.

We. Just ew. Maybe he was just being cheeky but EW!

Yuck. Don't value that friendship - he is horrible.

Choose better friends.

Obviously totally unacceptable and inappropriate. I wouldn't have anything further to do with him.

You really need advice?
Jesus wept.
What do you think?

Vile.

I valued his friendship

You did just not anymore. You can go off people no matter how much of a history you've got with them.

He's a creepy fuck, time to dump.

I honestly don’t understand. You know what he’s like, you were ok with that presumably so ...

What advise do you need? Those are the words of a paedohile. Keep him well away from your daughter.

Gross & bordering on pedo type innapropriateness. Is this person really a true “friend”? Doesn’t sound like someone you should be giving the light of day!

Not a friend in any sense of the word ..

He sounds like one of the 'she was asking for it' brigade.

Did he beam in from the 1950's? What an attitude!

Sounds like he needs telling where to go, in no uncertain terms. What a vile man!

Ewww. What a creep. Never speak to him again!

Something weird about him to be thinking that way about a kid not to mention fucking rude stating she will be promiscuous!

Hateful old misogynist. Nothing to debate - he has debased and insulted your daughter personally and exposed his foul attitudes to women in general.

If you want to salvage that friendship, you need to work on your own values.

He sounds like he has paedo tendencies. I don't see that many people other than paedos and potential paedos could see a child that way.

He does seem to have taken a real in depth observation of your daughter. I would keep yourself and her well away from him.

He’s a vile cunt. I knew that before I even read his opinions on your daughter, that just confirmed it.

Gross & bordering on pedo type inappropriateness*

How's it "bordering" on? When a grown man looks at an eight year old girl and thinks she's strutting, shaking her butt and dressed sexually, then that's right smack bang in the middle of paedo territory.

I fortunately don't know any many who would have those thoughts about a little girl and if I did, I'd warn people about him and make sure both my daughter and I were never in his vicinity again, and I'd make sure he Knew if he ever approached her then I'd call the police on him, report his comments and the fact he's approaching her.

"You know what he’s like, you were ok with that presumably so..."

How did I know this? Checking out women is not the same viewing children inappropriately.

Is this person really a true “friend”?

He was someone I could call on to vent to, fix anything I'd broken. He even taught my DD to ride a bike (I was present).

I never got the pedo vibe from him and I have had that vibe before. I've seen how some men have looked at my DD. This guy is/was a hands on dad with his DD so I found that reassuring.

Of course, I've severed the 'friendship.' I''m just upset and need reassurance.

Vile and inappropriate. You’ve done yourself a favour there Op by getting rid, I couldn’t imagine what he’d be commenting towards her when she’s older

Nasty old misogynist - tell him to f**k off!

Those are just the things he said to YOU, how much worse are the opinions he keeps to himself??

I would be less upset & more furious & protective over my daughter. Wouldn’t be sitting there feeling sad at losing a friendship. It sounds like you only had him around when you needed something - to vent, fix something or play dad to your daughter & teach her to ride a bike. I wouldn’t be surprised if he thinks unkind & innapropriate thoughts about you too. He might think you are helpless to need him for basics like that, but such is the nature of women in his eyes !