What would you have said to this guy ?

[RebeccaGlasscock]

I was talking to a guy on OLD who seemed alright, and at one point told me he had 3 kids and then said "I bet it's not really what you're looking for, is it."
I told him that I wasn't but that it shouldn't make him think he wouldn't meet others because of it and that I was sure he would meet someone soon.
He seemed to take offence at this and replied saying I looked like a man on my photos 🙄

Not really sure what I was meant to say, he seemed insecure so tried to reassure him, no need to act like that.

Ah the old - insult you after you reject me, no matter how politely (or even if I think you're going to reject me) technique.

You look like a man is quite original and refreshing, usually it's you're fat/old/ugly etc etc.

Well now you know why he's not with the mother (s)? of his kids.

He's a wanker and you respond with nothing.

Also you're going to need the hide of a rhino for online dating.

You were honest and kind/diplomatic - unfortunately he's too.
much if a dickhead to appreciate that and just lashed out when you confirmed you weren't interested.

You should out it in Bye Felipe - which demonstrates how many wankers like him there are out there.

It sounds like the three children are the least of his concerns with a personality like that!

*put it

No response is the appropriate response but I couldn't help but think of a few;

"I am a man, isn't this a gay hook-up site?"

I prefer to be called non-binary".

"Well you look like a woman, so I thought it could work".

" If I was a man, you'd probably have had way more chance if getting a date/shag".

"I can see why the mother/s of your three kids is not with you".

"And you're short/bald/overweight etc. but I was way too polite to point that out til you started throwing insults".

"And yet you messaged me .. are you actually gay then?"

"Funny how you only decided that after messaging me/chatting with me and being told I'm not looking for a man with three kids".

"Well at least one of us looks like a man".

I should probably stop now .

😂

Love those responses!

TarMcAdam you funny 😁

Hahah brilliant, wish I had thought of them 😂

Lovely, OLD is FULL of narcs.

You probably snagged a pathetic middle.

He was already defensive before he asked the question.

Did he not mention his kids in his profile?

Bottom feeder.

No point in even being annoyed, just feel sorry! Someone like that will have just so little emotional intelligence that the thought of being inside their angry, confused little heads for even a moment is enough to just make you think, eek. Lucky escape. But, poor kids with a father like that :(

You could have said ‘well with that attitude you surely won’t be having a fourth’...

What a dickhead, one of oh so many unfortunately...

wish my brain worked like yours!!!

Problem is, if it was in person, I'd think of a come back 10mins after the incident; not at the time.

TaraMcAdam love those responses

Let's not forget 👍

*Bottom feeder.

No point in even being annoyed, just feel sorry! Someone like that will have just so little emotional intelligence that the thought of being inside their angry, confused little heads for even a moment is enough to just make you think, eek. Lucky escape. But, poor kids with a father like that sad*

Seconded.

Do have a look at Bye Felipe to out these nasty wanker experiences in perspective.

*put

Oh dear, what a wanker. Block and move on and be glad you didn’t waste any more time on this twit!

I was at the Wake of my dearly beloved FIL, an incredibly sad day, as he was like a father to me, when my ex narcissistic husband's boss called me into a room to tell me this "hilarious " story.
His wife had spotted this person from behind who they thought was me, when they turned round it was a transgender man!

So on this painfully sad day, he laughed his way through this story of me looking like a transgender man. I already had bad self esteem and confidence, to this day I have no idea why he wanted to hurt me and ridicule me on such a painful day!

Any ideas?

But everyone is right about your situation he is a bottom of the pond dweller, with the brains and genitalia the size of an amoeba.
You dodged a bullet!

Perfect @TarMcAdam!

I haven't RTFT but I would have responded with "oops in that case it appears that you are on the wrong website, Grindr is for gay men". After all, he messaged you despite you 'looking like a man'