I had to cancel a date because my toddler has croup. Does he sound like an arse?

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I was invited on a date for this evening but I had to cancel because my child has developed croup, for obvious reasons I wasn't prepared to leave him and go on my jollies whilst he needs to be with his primary caregiver. Croup aside, he also has additional needs.

I sent a WhatsApp first thing this morning apologising for having to cancel but explained why.

He read my message and blanked me.

I'm not sure what I feel like an appropriate response would have been, but a polite acknowledgment nevertheless and perhaps a "hope he gets well soon" or a suggestion to rearrange. You know, common decency.

The bloke is somebody I was seeing in the past, so we already know one another.

The more I've reflected on his personality the more I remember that he's actually a bit of an arse in general, so I don't plan on seeing him again..

But is it just me who thinks that's quite rude and insensitive?

Yep. Common or garden arse there for sure. Well rid. I hope your little lad is okay

Yes, that's rude. On the plus side, at least you won't waste any time on him in the future.

Firstly I hope your DS is okay.
Secondly, you had a lucky escape there! What an arse. Get well rid!

Lucky escape. I hope your son feels better soon. Croup is horrible.

He’s told you who he is, please believe him.

Yes that's arsey and selfish. YANBU to think he can go and take a running jump at himself. Hope your little one is better soon.

To add incase anybody is reading and wondering, I'm absolutely certain it's a passive aggressive way of expressing his annoyance. He's a big texter and never leaves a message unanswered, unless he's giving the silent treatment (which he has been known to do in the past - the mature catch that he isn't)

DS is getting some much needed cuddles and is my bed tonight, poor little bugger.

I actually feel like blocking the git but unsure whether that would make me look equally as childish?

You're well rid of the tosser. When DD2 had croup it was horrendous and there was no way I would leave her to go on a date.
You have had a lucky escape.

Block him op. What does it matter what it looks like to someone like him? Before today, the silent treatment is a big red flag.

He's either a selfish twat or doesn't believe you and thinks he's been blown out and your child been ill is a excuse, if you know him well-ish then you will have to decide which is more likely.

Block him ! What an arse 😡

I’d block him. You shouldn’t waste any more time on him and if you block him you won’t be tempted back by nice messages in the future.

Blocking him will let him know he's got under your skin. Far better to pretend you haven't even noticed he didn't reply.

He'll wait for you to say 'oh sorry about that when are you next free?' and it'll drive him nuts when you never do, leaving him hanging

just mute him and archive the conversation.

He’s given you a very clear message as to the type of person he is, you’d be foolish to ignore that.

Hope your son is on the mend soon, croup is a worry

Silent treatment already! Ffs he’s not shy about showing his true self which is a bonus because you won’t waste anymore time on a total knob.

Yes block him. Why wouldn’t you? Hope your dc feels better soon. Croup is awful.

Knowing him the way that I do, I wouldn't be at all surprised if he's got the hump because he thinks I've made it up to get out of going. He's a cynical person by nature but that is a reflection of his personality and not my behaviour, I've never lied.

Even if he did doubt the authenticity of what I'm telling him, a decent person would still respond with empathy just incase.

Yes his previous silent treatment is definitely a red flag, a few others too come to think of it.

I'll be blocking him now.

Had to stop myself sending a shirty message admiring his empathy for a sick child.

Arsehole

An appropriate response would be 'Goodbye'

So it's clear why you STOPPED seeing him, what's not clear is why you made another date to start seeing him again?

Why do you need to block him? It just shows you’re stewing over it. It’s childish. Just... I don’t know... don’t reply? And move on?

Blocking looks like you're trying to get a reaction and make a point and gives him the opportunity to feel like the wronged party. Just don't message him and if he gets in touch then tell him why you're no longer interested.

I wouldn’t block him, I would just never reply.

Meh I dunno

Lots of women come on here ready for dates but either haven’t heard from the guy or he’s cancelled and they’re advised to just ignore him because he’s probably lying or found something better

No different here really ? He might be thinking “is she really telling the truth?” the same way posters on here think when their dates get cancelled

Don’t block him! Why would you do that, and make him think he’s really got to you? Just ghost him. It’ll have a MUCH bigger effect

Knowing him the way that I do

I'm surprised you agreed in the first place. If you know someone is a man child why would you go on a date with them? Obviously you have no intentions on having a serious relationship with someone so immature. Seems like a waste of time at all.