What things does you DP/DH do to show you how much they love/respect you?

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My DP has been an absolutely angel today.

I've been feeling really really ill (period after 6 months - thanks mini pill!) and awful cold.

He's just popped into my house, with a bagful of medicines, nice tea, sweets, chicken soup from my favourite restaurant, magazines, bubble bath and shower gel, new PJS and socks plus sanitary items.
He then got DD (not his) ready and has now taken her out for tea and to go and see him mum for a bit.

He's my friend of 10+ years so we know each other in incredibly well (and know the good&bad ins and outs of each other) and I love him to pieces.
But he really has outdone himself just now.

Have you got anything to add? I always see such negativity on here about partners and relationships (I've been in a hideously abusive relationship) and it's so upsetting to know there are still so many people out there that think they're deserving of these wankers.

My partner will walk in with my favourite chocolate at least once a week which I find lovely.
But what I really love is the little things he does too that shows he cares like when I have a nasty period and bleed everywhere he will put my things in the wash and change the bedsheets, the gentle squeeze of my leg or a reassuring hand tickle when we are out with family/friends/by ourselves, the kiss on the forehead last thing at night, it’s those things that remind me that he loves and respects me.

It’s sometimes the small things that often get overlooked that are a gentle reminder of ‘love’.

He’s put his career on the line standing up for my horrible mistreatment by my local authority.

Tells me multiple times everyday that he loves me. Tells me he is proud of me. Thinks of little things (like getting me the specific moleskin diary I use that often sells out, before I've even thought to start looking for it). Making sure I get out the house for a few hours alone time at the weekends. Picking up the slack without question when I'm not feeling well. I do the same for him

Dh just came home with some chocolate that he knows I like.

He often reaches out a hand to me as I go past just so I will squeeze it on my way! If I'm fed up he might suggest we go and look at some things for my hobby at weekend.

Exh wasn't happy if I was looking happy but dh is unhappy if I am unhappy and will try to cheer me up! Funnily enough I'm not unhappy that often now!

Another period one - first after having my baby and I’m constantly leaking. It’s the worst I’ve had in ten years. He’s noticed before me on occasion and has clean underwear and trousers/pjs at hand for me.
And he tells me he loves me everyday and I need that right now!

Lovely thread! My DP of two years texts me love notes from train in the morning or if he's staying away will send them late so I see them in the morning.
When I am stressed at work he tells me how great I am at my job, talks loads of sense and gives me big bear hugs to make everything ok.
Buys me flowers because he can and hangs my bath towel closest to the radiator so it's warm in the morning

He washes the dishes because he knows it's my least favourite household chore! I mean, that just sounds so mundane but it really means a lot to me.
He buys me little gifts if he has city meetings, but always something a little unusual like the time he went to Leicester and brought me home a proper pork pie and some cheese.
It just shows that he's really thought about it rather than grabbing flowers/chocolate.

He says thank you. I changed my diary around so he could go to an event last night that he really wanted to do. He actually thanked me and acknowleged it.
That seems mundane too, but I don't feel like he takes it for granted.

Makes me a coffee and brings it to bed on my days off, before he goes to work.
Breakfast in bed on both our days off ( we take turns tho he does it more than me)
Affectionate, and also gives the best comfort hugs when I need them
Looks after me when I'm unwell
Puts up with my sarcy ways which sometimes run away with me.

It's all about the small things which mean the most I think.

My husband cooks me my lunch every night for work the next day (so all I have to do is warm it up on my lunch break)
He always comes in and 'takes over' the childcare so I can have half an hour on my own when he finishes work.
He will often just appear beside me with a cup of tea in hand for me.
He empties the dishwasher every morning before I get up because he knows I hate doing it.
It's the little things that make the biggest difference!! I'd honestly be lost without him.

He's just nice and fun and kind and I laugh hysterically at least once a day because of something he says. He makes my life immeasurably better just by being in it.

He collected me from work yesterday, "because it's Baltic out", it's a 20min walk, we don't live together. And he popped a big chocolate santa in my bag as he kissed me when I was getting out of the car. Aaaaaw

Attends Mass every week, with me, even though he's an Atheist

Occasionally he deigns not to contradict me. 😭

My DH holds my hand in bed at night, he even does it when he's asleep and he de-ices my car in the mornings. We've only been married a month and hope it stays like this! (I do nice things for him too)

It's the little things that can make such a big difference.

Bringing breakfast in bed, or making two cups of tea in a row even though it's my turn if I'm tired etc.

Just shows it’s the little things that show they’re thinking of you, and not themselves isn’t it.

Such lovely things on here.

I've remembered another.
When my hands are cold of an evening (they're always cold) he'll hold them, one at a time, in both of his hands and warm them up.

It's just something small, but it's so sweet.

Or he'll run me a bath when I've been out in the cold/rain.
We have baths together sometimes and he'll rub my back, whilst we have wine, and then I'll lay on his chest.
It's such a lovely feeling, to be secure, warm, happy and comfortable.

I'm hoping that anyone reading this who is in a shitty, abusive relationship realises that it isn't the norm.
I've been there, I accepted it as my norm and it most definitely fucking isn't.
You are worth so much more. There are lovely men out there who are willing to give you the world on a stick, please don't settle for anything less.

DP makes me coffee every single morning, sometimes in bed, sometimes in the shower. It’s lovely because I’m really not a morning person.

He’ll spend hours tickling me whilst we watch tv, especially if I’m stressed or I’ve been upset (had a tough year thus far).

He is very thoughtful, flowers, treats etc. When I was upset having gone back to work after a lovely long maternity leave he surprised me by picking up the baby and bringing her to lunch. It’s just what I needed.

Posters are right it’s the little things.

I am 8 months pregnant and get green tea and breakfast in bed every morning, baths run for me each night and he reads to the baby whilst I fall asleep. He is my world.

This whole thread has just made me love DH a little bit more. He does so many of these wonderful little things.

I've nothing different to add, but he can always tell when I'm feeling a little low and every time without fail he suggests we watch Harry Potter which he knows instantly cheers me up. He also puts something on the TV and will tickle my back until I fall asleep every night, despite how tired he is!!

He's just the best!

Reading this thread makes me smile The kindest thing my DH does is always, always making sure there’s a big bottle of water by my side of the bed before he goes off to sleep when I am on a late night out to make sure I don’t wake up with a killer hangover.
He also does this thing where he pats me lightly on my head as if he is trying to put me to sleep when I struggle to sleep/wake up in the middle of the night - all this when he is half asleep himself ! He’s the best.

For six years, my boyfriend set his alarm for five minutes after mine, because one time I overslept and got really stressed.

He didn't need to get up - he is self employed. But he would always, always ask what time my alarm was and set his for five minutes later so he could wake me up if I needed it.

We are (happily and mutually) not together any more, but I will never forget his constant, daily acts of tenderness.

My DP is so attentive, it's lovely. If something has bothered or upset me, he will immediately take it on board and rectify it. I love that he listens (It's all minor stuff and not a lot).

He brings me tea in bed in the mornings when he stays over. He's made me a cooked breakfast many times, sometimes in bed. The first night we got to spend together properly he pretended he needed to get breakfast from the shop because he wanted to bring me flowers. He often makes the effort and picks up chocolate I like or new flavours for us to try. He rubs my feet or neck when we sit on the sofa. If I've been around to his he will make sure he's got food in I like. He makes a huge effort with my DCs and it's lovely to see. A lot of thought and effort went into my birthday (my first with us as a couple), I was very touched, and some of the gifts were handmade by him (and really thoughtful ones). He wrote some beautiful words in my birthday card that made me cry. In fact, I'm so bloody soppy over him I can cry at the thought of his kindness and just how much I love him. I never doubt just how much he adores me and it's the best feeling ever.

Despite his dyslexia, DH has been sitting with our DD15 each night going over and over her GCSE English revision, giving her encouragement and cuddles while she stresses out. It makes my heart melt.

Mine does most of the cooking, pops upstairs to put on the electric blanket, makes me put up my feet while he walks the dog, has just done all the fiddly bits in a room we’re painting because I couldn’t be bothered. He’s an absolute gem.