So this is a spin-off of my other thread.
I guess a weekend away and some flirting with an attractive coworker has left me in a right state. I'm very attracted to my coworker.
My husband is a very dedicated father to our kids; he's a stay home dad. However, he has allowed the arrival of kids to completely derail our sex life and romantic life.
He says he's too tired after a day with the kids for sex. OK that leaves the weekend and a maximum of 3 times a month for sex. I have a high sex drive and it's hard for me. If he would 'get the job done' and provide a good shag I think I could live with the 2-3 times a month.
The problem is that doesn't happen. No foreplay, no lovemaking, no sensuality; he just shoves it in and sometimes if he feels like it he'll do a good job. I'm very frustrated. I've tried talking to him about it but he just makes excuses like: Oh, the kids will wake up. He's tired.
It's the lack of sensuality and complete intimacy that's really the problem rather than technique. We just have no 'spark' in our marriage and on top of the he has no sense of adventure outside of the bedroom. He doesn't want to go on family trips or take the kids out because it's too much work. He doesn't plan ahead or for the future at all.
I guess this situation with my coworker made me realise what I could be missing out on. I'm far more excited by this coworker than by my husband.
Our life is too boring for me and my husband appears to be content with it. He refuses to get a babysitter or a creche and I went to university of 6 years so I don't want to be a stay at home parent. He should of thought about that before. He also won't get a babysitter so we can go out for a date. He says he doesn't want a stranger looking after his kids.