To those who need (lots of?) uninterrupted alone time

[NeedItSoMuch]

How do you cope in relationship? How do you get that alone time?

I do not mean only the time doing separate activities (like going to gym or social activity), but mostly I mean the really uninterrupted alone time - where you do not see or talk to anyone and you do not have to be alert that your partner or friends want attention.

Are there anyone else with this need out there?
How and how often do you get it while being in relationship?

NeedItSoMuch someone who sulks so incredibly often and uses it to punish you or control you isn't a good person.

@NeedItSoMuch

You can so so much better than this. You've been with him three years, you are already forcing yourself to have sex when you should NEVER have to or do that and he isn't fulfilling your legitimate need.

Free yourself.

Total introvert here. I start to malfunction if I don't get my cave time. Luckily for me I work from home so have the house to myself for a few hours a day whilst DC are out. Trying OLD at moment and tend to make a beeline for the guys who describe themselves as introvert too....

Space sounds like the biggest issue
Having enough space to be apart without having to go out helps a lot. There's something nice about having someone there but you're both content doing your own thing for an afternoon.

Like most men OP, he’ll be in a new relationship within six months if you leave him. His need for companionship will be a driving force that sadly seems completely absent from him at the moment.

You really arent compatible and children will only make it worse.

Also, how can you be happy with someone who is so unmotivated and uninteresting? He seems to live such a small life.

Find someone similar to you and start to enjoy your life and sex life again.

Really interesting to read others' comments about the need for solitude. It's taken me years to accept this is my need. Seems to get worse with age. Can't be bothered being surrounded by other people in the office environment. On my day off if dh working from home drives me mad. It's true, we're persuaded by society/media we're meant to love being cooped up together. I need acres of time to process everything.

When I last lived with someone, I found myself staying later and later at work, going late night shopping and parking up in lanes or pub car parks - anything to put off going home and being questioned and followed around and having my every move commented on. Drove me nuts. I love living alone (bar animals).

He sounds very needy. I couldn't tolerate someone 'giving' me time alone. Or walking the streets/sitting in cafes in order to be alone when really what I want is space in my own home. Why did you move in with him? (Or have him move in with you?) You sound quite young and if anything, you need more alone time as you get older.